what NOT to do in a relationship....... - Page 12

betenoire · 07-31-2010, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Tranzman

Don't expect your partner to read your mind. Communicate your needs and desires. Statements such as, "Well if you don't know why I am angry, then I certainly am not going to tell you", will not be given attention by me.

For fucking real.

And when I ask what your problem is, absolutely don't say "Forget it. I am stupid and wrong anyway." Because we have never had a conversation in which I told you that you were stupid and wrong - maybe you've had that conversation with some other girl, but don't put that shit on me.

And, plus. You know. If you refuse to tell me what your problem is I am not going to sweet-talk it out of you. All you're doing is pissing me off.

weatherboi · 07-31-2010, 02:47 PM

please do not flush my marijuana down the toilet!!!
it will do no one any good!!!

Julie · 07-31-2010, 03:08 PM

Rule Number 1: Do NOT ever let me TOP You -- It will be over!

Stearns · 07-31-2010, 03:13 PM

Don't fail to examine the role you may have played in the doo-doo. Maybe you chose to overlook those little red flags that had popped up, or maybe you decided 'unconsciously on purpose' that the relo wasn't good for you and you did stuff to get out of it, in order to preserve your self-hood.

I can't tolerate feeling buffeted about by forces beyond my control. I need to know that I made decisions - unconsciously or not - what those decisions were, and why I made them. Then, I get to decide what to do about it. In doing so, I return my power to me.

Soft*Silver · 07-31-2010, 03:27 PM

AMEN!!! AMEN!!!! AMEN!!!!

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Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

Rule Number 1: Do NOT ever let me TOP You -- It will be over!

violaine · 07-31-2010, 03:30 PM

forget to apologise-

Billy · 07-31-2010, 03:43 PM

I am not your ex , don't compare Me to them in any way shape or form I am My own person and I make mistakes from time to ...And I am NOT a disabled midget , I can take care of Myself just fine thank you ! Just sayin

And if you have been in jail for printing checks or you are the gate keeper to the aliens , or the crazy cat lady , or you can drink a keg by yourself befor dinner and then some please SEE THE DOOR !

betenoire · 07-31-2010, 03:46 PM

I DID NOT BECOME THE CRAZY CAT LADY INTENTIONALLY, BILLY! REPORTED!

Billy · 07-31-2010, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

I DID NOT BECOME THE CRAZY CAT LADY INTENTIONALLY, BILLY! REPORTED!

Oh I didn't know there was more then one

IrishGrrl · 07-31-2010, 03:50 PM

Billy..who are you talking too? How many cats do you have?? snort*

Billy · 07-31-2010, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by IrishGrrl

Billy..who are you talking too? How many cats do you have?? snort*

Hey I will be the first to admit I love animals and I love mine ! Perhaps crazy cat lady was not the proper term or name for her , I was trying to be nice But she was crazy ! She would call every 5 freakin minutes ! Wake Me up all the time ! And changed who and what she wanted to be on a daily basis Oh and I am NOT a Lady !

betenoire · 07-31-2010, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Billy

Hey I will be the first to admit I love animals and I love mine ! Perhaps crazy cat lady was not the proper term or name for her , I was trying to be nice But she was crazy ! She would call every 5 freakin minutes ! Wake Me up all the time ! And changed who and what she wanted to be on a daily basis Oh and I am NOT a Lady !

I have a pregnant stray cat locked in my bathroom right now Billy. Want her? She's going to make KITTENS and I promise they will be cute!

I'd keep her, but I really want my bathroom back.

Billy · 07-31-2010, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

I have a pregnant stray cat locked in my bathroom right now Billy. Want her? She's going to make KITTENS and I promise they will be cute!

I'd keep her, but I really want my bathroom back.

Oh thank you ! But I believe I have more then My share right now ...lol I have a kitten that was saved in the flood here , and she likes to take a shower with Me

Ashton · 07-31-2010, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

DO NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tell me how I need to be more demure.

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Originally Posted by June

Don't ask the Femme who brought the Delicious Peach Cobbler to the picnic to marry you in front of your partner. Trust me, it can cause a lot of problems later that evening.

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Originally Posted by softness

dont take better care of an ex than you do me. If you are in a relationship with me, dont tell me I need to be self sufficient but an ex needs your help. I will resent the hell out of both of you...

Dont tell me I cant have a horse. Seriously, dont. It will be one of the straws that break the camel's back...

dont make fun of my family. God help you. There is nobody perfect in this world and we all have our issues but if you amplify my family's issues into a good set of jokes around the table with friends, you will be served shit on your plate the next day...

ooo...does that count as scat???

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Originally Posted by softness

dont invite your friends over to meet your new girlfriend, then get angry after they leave and tell her you KNOW she was flirting with them....thats really stupid and qualifies you technically as a first class jerk....

when in a supposed committed relationship, dont leave your ex your power of attorney because she has more of a history with you. It makes the new GF feel like she is just on loan....

ditto for whose name is on your checks....

and as beneficiary on your insurance policies

and lets not talk about the will...

and when your new gf tells you that your ex wanted to know if her name was still on all of these, dont turn it around and say your new GF is just jealous when what she really is, is concerned...for you

dont introduce your gf to your family on Christmas as your friend. Especially if you are very out....

the xmas stocking for your ex needs to be sent to her or put in the trash, not back in the xmas box

DONT show people the face your gf makes when she is coming...you might not ever see that face again...

Its really scarey that you would have to even think of telling someone these things.

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

DO NOT!!! think you can use me as a sushi table....

Killjoy!!

The_Lady_Snow · 07-31-2010, 05:13 PM

DO NOT!!! Stop all communication with me because your dog passed away, and expect that after a month of you not communicating that all will be ok.

Graham · 07-31-2010, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by weatherboi

please do not flush my marijuana down the toilet!!!
it will do no one any good!!!

OMG say it ain't soooooooooooo!!!!

Gayla · 07-31-2010, 06:36 PM

There is more than one crazy cat lady. So far, I've known two and I don't think Billy and I have anyone in common.

IrishGrrl · 07-31-2010, 06:57 PM

Please do not give me a detailed run down about the amazing shit you just took.

Do not rush me to orgasm while fucking me

If I say I need time to think, please dont follow me around the house.

I dont mind harmless flirting, but DO NOT oggle other women all night

Please do not call me to talk, then go on a 20 minute spiel about something ADORABLE your cat did. Then go on for another 20 min's about your OTHER cats!

Never, EVER lie to me, even if it's gonna hurt.

If you are pissed off, or upset about something, talk about it. Passive agressive behavior will get you the boot.

Dont do the running man on the dance floor while we are out with our friends.

If you burp or fart say excuse me.

I may not act like a lady, but dont forget that I am one, and treat me accordingly

The_Lady_Snow · 07-31-2010, 07:00 PM

DO NOT introduce me as your latina girlfriend and wiggle your eyebrows at your friends.....

betenoire · 07-31-2010, 07:09 PM

Absolutely do not expect me to spend all of my spare time making words at you. Sometimes nobody has anything to say - and that is OKAY. It is fine to not have anything to talk about. But don't get upset and presume something is wrong when I can't keep up a constant stream of inane chatter.

07-31-2010, 03:13 PM	#224
Stearns Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Man Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Husband Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: 'nita land Posts: 272 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 385 Thanked 443 Times in 149 Posts Rep Power: 3640	When relationships go bad.... Don't fail to examine the role you may have played in the doo-doo. Maybe you chose to overlook those little red flags that had popped up, or maybe you decided 'unconsciously on purpose' that the relo wasn't good for you and you did stuff to get out of it, in order to preserve your self-hood. I can't tolerate feeling buffeted about by forces beyond my control. I need to know that I made decisions - unconsciously or not - what those decisions were, and why I made them. Then, I get to decide what to do about it. In doing so, I return my power to me.

07-31-2010, 03:46 PM	#228
betenoire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Satan in a Sunday Hat Preferred Pronoun?: Maow Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: The Chemical Valley Posts: 4,086 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,312 Thanked 8,739 Times in 2,565 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I DID NOT BECOME THE CRAZY CAT LADY INTENTIONALLY, BILLY! REPORTED! __________________ bête noire \bet-NWAHR\, noun: One that is particularly disliked or that is to be avoided.

07-31-2010, 05:13 PM	#235
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	DO NOT!!! Stop all communication with me because your dog passed away, and expect that after a month of you not communicating that all will be ok. __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

07-31-2010, 07:00 PM	#239
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,080 Times in 15,669 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	DO NOT introduce me as your latina girlfriend and wiggle your eyebrows at your friends..... __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

07-31-2010, 07:09 PM	#240
betenoire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Satan in a Sunday Hat Preferred Pronoun?: Maow Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: The Chemical Valley Posts: 4,086 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,312 Thanked 8,739 Times in 2,565 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Absolutely do not expect me to spend all of my spare time making words at you. Sometimes nobody has anything to say - and that is OKAY. It is fine to not have anything to talk about. But don't get upset and presume something is wrong when I can't keep up a constant stream of inane chatter. __________________ bête noire \bet-NWAHR\, noun: One that is particularly disliked or that is to be avoided.

07-31-2010, 02:47 PM	#222
weatherboi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Owned boy Preferred Pronoun?: Hey boy!!! Relationship Status: counting freckles slowly under Her direction!!! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: i have 2 sets of geographic coordinates!!! Posts: 6,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,797 Thanked 12,549 Times in 2,993 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	please do not flush my marijuana down the toilet!!! it will do no one any good!!!

07-31-2010, 03:08 PM	#223
Julie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Angel * Femme * Lesbian * Girl * Woman * Slut * Bitch * Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: No longer a Virgin Bride to Dreamer ~ May 17th, 2014 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New York Posts: 4,674 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,676 Thanked 18,160 Times in 3,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Rule Number 1: Do NOT ever let me TOP You -- It will be over!

07-31-2010, 03:30 PM	#226
violaine Timed Out How Do You Identify?: atypical Preferred Pronoun?: plague words and phrases Relationship Status: love wise guys of the avian world Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wekiva springs basin Posts: 3,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,934 Thanked 3,293 Times in 1,301 Posts Rep Power: 0	forget to apologise-

07-31-2010, 03:43 PM	#227
Billy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Billy~ Preferred Pronoun?: Mr Princess ~ Relationship Status: Married April 20 2013 Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Nashville TN Posts: 1,730 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,059 Thanked 3,871 Times in 1,053 Posts Rep Power: 20503085	I am not your ex , don't compare Me to them in any way shape or form I am My own person and I make mistakes from time to ...And I am NOT a disabled midget , I can take care of Myself just fine thank you ! Just sayin And if you have been in jail for printing checks or you are the gate keeper to the aliens , or the crazy cat lady , or you can drink a keg by yourself befor dinner and then some please SEE THE DOOR !

07-31-2010, 03:50 PM	#230
IrishGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Leatherdyke Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: In a relationship/non-monogamous Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 877 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 276 Thanked 1,209 Times in 366 Posts Rep Power: 2427288	Billy..who are you talking too? How many cats do you have?? snort*

07-31-2010, 06:36 PM	#237
Gayla Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kinky Butch Top Preferred Pronoun?: I'm not picky Relationship Status: She makes me dance like a fool and forget how to breathe. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: SF CA Posts: 3,229 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 877 Thanked 7,077 Times in 1,966 Posts Rep Power: 0	There is more than one crazy cat lady. So far, I've known two and I don't think Billy and I have anyone in common.

07-31-2010, 06:57 PM	#238
IrishGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Leatherdyke Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: In a relationship/non-monogamous Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 877 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 276 Thanked 1,209 Times in 366 Posts Rep Power: 2427288	Please do not give me a detailed run down about the amazing shit you just took. Do not rush me to orgasm while fucking me If I say I need time to think, please dont follow me around the house. I dont mind harmless flirting, but DO NOT oggle other women all night Please do not call me to talk, then go on a 20 minute spiel about something ADORABLE your cat did. Then go on for another 20 min's about your OTHER cats! Never, EVER lie to me, even if it's gonna hurt. If you are pissed off, or upset about something, talk about it. Passive agressive behavior will get you the boot. Dont do the running man on the dance floor while we are out with our friends. If you burp or fart say excuse me. I may not act like a lady, but dont forget that I am one, and treat me accordingly