what NOT to do in a relationship....... - Page 26

msW8ing · 04-13-2011, 01:27 PM

YES!!! Nobody wants to live with the "ghosts of relationships past" or hear constantly about how and what your ex did. I am NOT them nor do I wish to be compared to them.

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Don't keep talking about your ex for Goddess sake! I would like to respect that relationship but if you keeping bringing them up it no longer appears you are over it!

Duchess · 04-13-2011, 07:30 PM

Don't cheat or play people. The shit will eventually hit the fan.

Duchess

Jess · 04-13-2011, 07:41 PM

I have done so many "NOTS" that I am still looking for the "what TO do in a relationship" thread...

The only thing I know for sure NOT to do, is...

Do NOT think for a minute that anything is the same as any past relationship. Every day and every event is new and just because past experiences had (A) result, this new one is completely different and may have (B) result.

Trying open-mindedness is always the best answer for me regarding relationships. That... and faith.

Good luck folks!

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Jess

I have done so many "NOTS" that I am still looking for the "what TO do in a relationship" thread...

Good luck folks!

OK I'll start a thread

Duchess · 04-13-2011, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

OK I'll start a thread

YAYYYYY!!!! Hey Sassy baby.

Soft*Silver · 04-13-2011, 08:25 PM

dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....

Diva · 04-13-2011, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by softness

dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....

May I just say, "WORD."?

04-14-2011, 05:51 AM

Don't make her be your 'everything', it's too much responsibility for one person. Have a life away from the relationship too.

Gina · 04-14-2011, 07:03 AM

Dont' make promises you will not be able to keep throughout the relationship. (Don't make promises - no one can live up to them, not even you). Don't say; "OH Honey you shouldn't have spent so much money on flowers, candy, dinner, jewelry, perfume, etc." - they will stop buying these things anyway as time goes by - so enjoy it while you can. No matter how hard you try - you can't keep the happy beginnings! And there are no happy endings. Play and be happy while you can! Enjoy the love while it is there! Then move on with your life - always stay *you*. The true you.

girl_dee · 04-14-2011, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by softness

dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....

I cannot tell you how true this is! Why do people think their partner deserves anything less that first on the list? You can have all of these others in your life but when you put their needs before your partner's needs, you royally just screwed up. It sends a message "You are not important to me"

The_Lady_Snow · 04-14-2011, 07:52 AM

Don't pretend to have a life threatening disease!!

Random · 04-14-2011, 07:54 AM

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Originally Posted by softness

dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....

Could you elaborate on what you mean by this?

What I'm reading is that your partner needs to come before yourself?

I'm just wondering, because the way that I look at it.. Making any relationship more important than the relationship you have with yourself doesn't sound very healthy. People can come and go... You always have yourself.

girl_dee · 04-14-2011, 08:06 AM

Don't tell me how much you LOVE me

Then ask me to change.

girl_dee · 04-14-2011, 08:27 AM

Don't buy things for him/her then that against him/her. Ouch.

JustJo · 04-14-2011, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Don't tell me how much you LOVE me

Then ask me to change.

Oh heck yea! This one makes me

If you decided to be with me, fell in love with me, whatever....because I'm me...then why would you want me to be different?

We all have to make some little adjustments to accomodate the one we love....but if we're talking fundamental changes, then I'm thinking I was a convenient warm body, not "the one" for you.

girl_dee · 04-14-2011, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by JustJo

Oh heck yea! This one makes me

If you decided to be with me, fell in love with me, whatever....because I'm me...then why would you want me to be different?

We all have to make some little adjustments to accomodate the one we love....but if we're talking fundamental changes, then I'm thinking I was a convenient warm body, not "the one" for you.

Exactly.......

04-14-2011, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Don't pretend to have a life threatening disease!!

Jeepers! Do folks really do that?

Arwen · 04-14-2011, 11:01 AM

Harp at me
Nitpick my ways
Denigrate me
Rehash that argument you said was over
Listen to gossip without clarifying it with me
Speak evil of me to others
Mock me

As always, I promise to do the same for you.

P.S. These are all past, not present lessons.

And, amazingly enough, they apply to my friendships as well.

msW8ing · 04-14-2011, 07:39 PM

Don't be thier option while making them a priority

BullDog · 04-14-2011, 10:37 PM

Don't go around referring to someone as your partner if you don't really mean it.

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04-14-2011, 05:51 AM	#508
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