what NOT to do in a relationship....... - Page 28

tazz · 11-21-2011, 08:22 PM

Do Not answer your phone while in bed!!!

Miss July · 11-22-2011, 10:02 AM

~ Don't stop communicating
~ Don't stop being open to compromise
~ Don't ASSume you know what the other is thinking
~ Don't stop being able to forgive
~ Don't stop smelling the roses & appreciating the small things
~ Don't stop respecting each other & thier opinions

ruffryder · 11-22-2011, 09:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tommi

*Don't pick yer nose n eat it. ________In front of her.

LOL! This reminds me an ex hated, Hated when I burped - loudly too! I got the kids going and she didn't appreciate it. A lady likes to be treated with respect no matter how comfortable you get in a relationship or how long you been together. Every now and then I let it slip in front of girl friends or whatever and I have to say I'm sorry!

Elijah · 11-22-2011, 10:14 PM

*Do not doom a relationship with inappropriate expectations.

*Do not try and change the person, if you want a Toyota, don't buy a Jeep and resent it for being a Jeep.

*Do not suck the life out of your partner, give space and freedom.

Duchess · 10-20-2012, 03:07 AM

~Don't make assumptions

bkisbutchenuff · 10-20-2012, 05:21 AM

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Originally Posted by tazz

Do Not answer your phone while in bed!!!

Along with answering the phone while in bed...I once had someone once answer a text while we were in bed - from someone that was an ex or so I was told at the time...not good!

morningstar55 · 10-20-2012, 05:28 AM

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Originally Posted by bkisbutchenuff

Along with answering the phone while in bed...I once had someone once answer a text while we were in bed - from someone that was an ex or so I was told at the time...not good!

Geeeezers ..... thats bad....

Blade · 10-20-2012, 06:31 AM

Don't expect more out of me, than you are willing to invest of yourself.

FemmeBibliophile · 10-20-2012, 06:48 AM

Don't go to bed angry. If someone is sleeping on the couch, it's bad.
Don't forget to tell someone what they mean to you. Just because they know doesn't mean they don't want to hear it.
Don't walk into a relationship expecting the other person to change for you.
Do not compare the things they do to how an ex did them.
Do not answer the phone in bed/while snuggling unless you're on call.
If all you're doing is settling, get out now.
Do not keep your ex on speed dial, and update them on every aspect of your life.
Don't let them treat your animals cruelty. If they aren't nice to them... How do you think they are really going to treat you?
Don't always bring up negatives. Once something is done and over, leave it done. Constantly throwing it back up isn't going to make things better.
Don't cheat. Emotional cheating is just as bad as physical cheating.

Prudence · 10-20-2012, 06:51 AM

Fight fair. No hitting below the belt.

girl_dee · 10-20-2012, 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I am gonna piggy back off this for a sec.

That whole honey moon phase going away thing. *I* don't get why it has to and why it would.

I mean you are the same people, why does it go away? Why?

Why would you want it to?

This!!!!!!!

cinnamongrrl · 10-20-2012, 07:35 AM

Do not change to suit their needs......and don't expect them to change for yours...

Do not lose yourself in them.....if it ends you will find it that much harder to get back to yourself...

Do not forsake your friends and/or family for anyone...that's the first sign of control issues....

Do not anticipate them being just like "everyone else". They are themselves and are not the ones that hurt you in the past....

Do not forget to tell them you love them....every single day.....

JustJo · 10-20-2012, 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by cinnamongrrl563

Do not forsake your friends and/or family for anyone...that's the first sign of control issues....

Yes, hell yes, to this right here.

People who love you and care about you don't try to isolate you.....they want you to have a connection and time with your family and friends.

Anyone who wants to isolate you from your family, your friends, or your community does not have your best interests at heart.

Teddybear · 10-20-2012, 07:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cinnamongrrl563

Do not change to suit their needs......and don't expect them to change for yours...

Do not lose yourself in them.....if it ends you will find it that much harder to get back to yourself...

Do not forsake your friends and/or family for anyone...that's the first sign of control issues....

Do not anticipate them being just like "everyone else". They are themselves and are not the ones that hurt you in the past....

Do not forget to tell them you love them....every single day.....

Have I told u today I LOVE U??? If not u do very much

Darbonaire · 10-20-2012, 08:16 AM

Be afraid to ask questions before making life changing decisions

Be willing to move somewhere you dislike to please someone else.

Give up your own needs trying to get them from the other person.

Allow the other person to assume they "know" you...they most likely do not know who you truly are, & don't assume you know them.

Lie about anything...not who you are, what you want, what's important to you, what IS ok & what isn't...but mainly don't ever lie to yourself.

My favorite saying is: If it never got any better than it is RIGHT now.....is it good enough? If you can't answer yes....then you better be examining why & making some decisions for yourself...cause, NOW is all any of us truly have.

Ginger · 10-20-2012, 08:46 AM

Let me quote the pompous doctor in Terms of Endearment, as he breaks the bad news to Shirley MacLaine that her daughter is dying:

"Expect the best, but prepare for the worst."

Just kidding.

Carry on.

~ocean · 10-20-2012, 09:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IslandScout

Let me quote the pompous doctor in Terms of Endearment, as he breaks the bad news to Shirley MacLaine that her daughter is dying:

"Expect the best, but prepare for the worst."

Just kidding.

Carry on.

HA ~~ @ U Island

FeminineAllure · 10-20-2012, 09:29 AM

Sharing too much too soon.

thedivahrrrself · 10-20-2012, 09:41 AM

Had to learn this one the hard way:

Don't try to talk about anything of substance while football is on.

Scuba · 10-20-2012, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by thedivahrrrself

Had to learn this one the hard way:

Don't try to talk about anything of substance while football is on.

Cute...and true **chuckling**

11-21-2011, 08:22 PM	#541
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10-20-2012, 06:48 AM	#549
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10-20-2012, 06:51 AM	#550
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cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,661 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,231 Thanked 27,599 Times in 6,956 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Do not change to suit their needs......and don't expect them to change for yours... Do not lose yourself in them.....if it ends you will find it that much harder to get back to yourself... Do not forsake your friends and/or family for anyone...that's the first sign of control issues.... Do not anticipate them being just like "everyone else". They are themselves and are not the ones that hurt you in the past.... Do not forget to tell them you love them....every single day.....

10-20-2012, 08:16 AM	#555
Darbonaire Timed Out How Do You Identify?: MALE Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Working on myself, thank you Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 186 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 343 Thanked 552 Times in 145 Posts Rep Power: 0	Don't.... Be afraid to ask questions before making life changing decisions Be willing to move somewhere you dislike to please someone else. Give up your own needs trying to get them from the other person. Allow the other person to assume they "know" you...they most likely do not know who you truly are, & don't assume you know them. Lie about anything...not who you are, what you want, what's important to you, what IS ok & what isn't...but mainly don't ever lie to yourself. My favorite saying is: If it never got any better than it is RIGHT now.....is it good enough? If you can't answer yes....then you better be examining why & making some decisions for yourself...cause, NOW is all any of us truly have.

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Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,296 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Let me quote the pompous doctor in Terms of Endearment, as he breaks the bad news to Shirley MacLaine that her daughter is dying: "Expect the best, but prepare for the worst." Just kidding. Carry on.

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