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Succinctly, I have always said this. If it is not all about us, it is for us.
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All though we joke about it, they are not all femme led...just as all relationships are not butch/male/masculine led. I think I am just me. The oldest of ten children who had a very ill mother and I took charge. Is it innate? Probably. Was it necessary for me and my siblings to survive? Definitely. Did it make me skilled at organizing and socializing? Why, yes it did. Did it make me bossy? Why, yes it did that, too.
But it also made me listen, nurture, kiss boo boos, fix skates, hammer forts, go to parent/teacher conferences and feed 11 people on 2 lbs of hamburger. (Think "Shameless" without the sex, alcohol or drugs.) I had to set priorities early...do I go to prom and spend money on a dress or do I pay for Tom's math tutor? We always talk about leadership like it is dominant. Leadership is many things and many many studies have been done on what it means...but being a leader in my relationship is not about dominance it is about openess to serve with the skills that are both innate and learned. I provide the direction, the social calendar, the emotional support, make important decisions but my partner is not like a minion waiting for my next command. LOL Leadership is more than bossing people around or telling them what to do. Leadership is listening. Leadership is coaxing. Leadership is laying down. Leadership is admitting skills (both held and lacking). Leadership is realizing that people are complicated and messy. Leadership in a relationship also is about love and loving. Love is not a rigid board of perfect design. Love is part of how I am. I am not perfect at anything, but Love makes my femme led relationships a playful dragonfly of grace in a field of sweet clover.
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Sometimes I like Grant to be my minion at my every beck and call, that's how it rolls when I'm in the mood, that's the beauty of these power exchange relationships for *me*. I can do, say, act like I want because I have consent and it gets us all off or we just plain like it.
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This really isn't a thread about male led relationships drew may I ask why you had to clarify your style of dominance here?
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I'd hate to see this thread turn into yet another thread about how butches and transguys lead- can we please respect the topic here which is: Femme Led Relationships and Trans/Butch Bottoms
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While I would like to think this statement true, the expectation seems to be that the Femme defer in a 50's housewife way to the Butch or Transguy...which can cause relationship friction for someone like me, who likes to run the show for the most part.
It occurs to me that maybe you have been better at finding partners who recognize your power than I have. I have encountered more desire to "break my spirit". It could be the difference in location and age between us? I find with younger Butches I have had better luck finding Butches not so ready to do the pissing contest thing with me....Not saying older Butches are bad, just that I have not connected with the right one and younger people seem more open minded. So glad to see this discussion happening again!
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Me too Apocalipstic!!! It's a great thread for Femmes Who Lead be' it full time, part time, in D/s not D/s ALL forms to discuss and also it gives the people on the end of The leash (if that's your thing) a place to discuss and share experiences!
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Leadership in Our/our house does not always come from a Dominant space. Even if my Ms is sick in bed (probably not feeling to dominant but still a Dominant), i am running this house under Her scheduled direction from Her sick space. i don't have the option to run it my way. That was the deal and i consented to it. i get that She does somethings and i do others because of Our/our individual talents, but She decides all this and directs it. She could very easily assign me to a task that isn't suited for me, something i don't like
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Hello Sachita and all others reading this thread. My femdom relationship is going well. He is above board in his service to me. He has extensive experience, far beyond anything I could ever imagine, and brings it humbly to me to honor my needs. Being sickly again, his service is needed more in a caretaking role at the moment. I adore him and am grateful for his devotion. I dont expect anyone to treat me like a Goddess except me. I take that role upon myself. I spoil me and indulge me and meet my own needs, especially if its by finding the right people to be around me. As for foot rubs or having my porch painted, those are negotiable items. I ask for nothing I would not be extremely appreciative of. None of it is ever expected out of foolish whimsical "show me you love me" shit. I dont need to be loved. Seriously. When you love yourself well, like I have discovered to do, you dont need to have anyone prove their love to you. When someone is in my life, they are there because I want them to be there. Very very few people are there for any other reason. And those are mostly non social contacts. I also see people discussing masculine energy. I use to think I didnt have any. Then I put a cock on. Hah. I am still a femme but something bended around inside me and I got to see how not different I was to the masculined version of humans I am. For a long time after packing for the first time, I would look in the mirrors as I passed them as tho I were seeing myself for the first time. I embrace who I am and dont get caught up in the pronouns of our language. I know I am not the girl I once thought I was...
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What June said.
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I support the dynamic in that I think femme led relationships are every bit as valid as any other type. I am an egalitarian at heart, although some have misread me to not be so. I have never been in a femme led relationship - that sort just isn't for me, personally. I just really liked what Isadora had to say and it resonated with me.
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Thanks for the support, it's appreciated and needed!
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Can I just say I am really enjoying this thread? Ok, good.
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But doncha just love it when you can make Her feel like a god?
i am in a femme-led poly D/s relationship. i like it that i am the only one in Her life who can help Her feel THAT particular way.
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Keep in mind MBE and I are switches... And since it can be hard, J is the switch side of me...
We've gone through changes. Some bad, some good. I had to have an attitude adjustment. And she had to learn some nasty lessons. We stepped back into an equal role, yet at the same time I always know who is in charge. I ask for permission to do things -- sometimes. If it goes outside the scope of my reality, which is really too hard to explain, I ask for permission. The one thing that never changed is the feeling of her strength over me when I can't do it anymore. Last week, I found out I was, in many ways, disowned by my parents for being trans. I'm not welcome home, that's for sure. As a result, being dominant is proving to be almost impossible. I can at times, but most of the time, I just can't right now. Lucky for me, she understands what I'm going through and is such an amazing person. What amazes me is that, being switches, when I can't; she can and vice versa. For now, she leads. And I follow. I trust that she is capable of holding her own and she trusts I'm doing okay. As my dominant, she is my strength. For us, I guess that's what it comes down to. |
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