Rethinking our partner wishlists. Is it "settling" or adjusting to reality?

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Originally Posted by Kobi

If you have a wishlist for a partner/companion is it an ideal list or a
guide of sorts?

Have you revised your list to increase your chances for finding an
appropriate partner/companion as you have matured in age?

Do you feel like you are settling if you deviate from your list?

If you find someone who's company you enjoy, and who treats you well,
but doesnt measure up to your preferred standards in some way,
can you set your list aside and just enjoy the company? Or, do you
find yourself holding back in case a more suitable suitor comes along?

Is there a point, age wise, when you can see yourself letting go of
the need for bells, whistles, and fireworks in exchange for pleasant,
consistent, mutually satisfying, supportive companionship?

Yes over the years I have revised my wish list. It has actually changed a lot since I was say 40.

My wish list is just a guide. Of course there are things on the wish list that is a must, but for the most part just a guideline.



I don't think I am settling if I stray off of my wish list a little. Things change life changes I change, our needs change. I could enjoy the company of someone who didn't measure up but that doesn't mean I would be in love with them. Friendship is important, and dating is sort of a way to weed out the friendships from the possible love interests.

For me the bells and whistles and fireworks almost always come first. There has to be a physical attraction. I am at the age where well lets face it I'm getting long in the tooth and if I were looking for a partner, the pickings in wish list are slim and get slimmer as time goes on. I wouldn't settle, I'd just keep looking until I found Miss Right. Miss September is working out just fine right now so the wish list is all checked off at this time.