Big Butch Love

[lipstixgal]

I'm overweight but I'm doing something to help it . I do Jenny Craig which is only 1200 calories per day no easy task!! I don't like being 50 lbs overweight but it is what it is. I started school in September and the weight came on like that. Hopefully with my internship I will be moving a little bit more and losing the weight!! Good lUck to those trying to lose its a hard battle believe me. also my parents were verbally abusive about my weight as well and I was about 120 lbs at the time!!

[Andrew, Jr.]

Lipstickgal,

My parents, esp. my mother, was verbally abusive towards me about my weight growing up. I was very thin and extremely muscular. I was out playing football, tennis, lifting weights, and so on. I weighted maybe 100 pounds soaking wet in high school. Everything else was muscle. She was embarassed by me. I was the exact opposite of her ideals of what it was to be a girl/woman/female gender.

If I talk with them today, the entire conversation is just about my weight. Even if I tell them it is not a subject up for debate or discussion, they ignore it. It wasn't until a friend of theirs was in their home, and walked in on a heated conversation of ours, it would have still gone on. I no longer talk with them at all. It is how I survive mentally. As parents, they should be ashamed of themselves. But they are too mentally ill to even know it.

Andrew

[Leigh]

I get sick and tired of people constantly making My weight a big issue ~ yeah I know I'm fat, must you constantly remind Me about that? Many of us live with being overweight every single day and we're perfectly fine without going on crash diets or practically killing ourselves to lose weight, so leave us alone and let us go on with our lives

Sorry guys, I guess Andrew mentioning about his parents got Me on abit of a rant because My dad does the same thing with Me about My weight ......... so I'm just glad that this thread is here so that us bigger butches/guys will know that we are loved and appreciated by femmes just the way that we are

[lipstixgal]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Lipstickgal,

My parents, esp. my mother, was verbally abusive towards me about my weight growing up. I was very thin and extremely muscular. I was out playing football, tennis, lifting weights, and so on. I weighted maybe 100 pounds soaking wet in high school. Everything else was muscle. She was embarassed by me. I was the exact opposite of her ideals of what it was to be a girl/woman/female gender.

If I talk with them today, the entire conversation is just about my weight. Even if I tell them it is not a subject up for debate or discussion, they ignore it. It wasn't until a friend of theirs was in their home, and walked in on a heated conversation of ours, it would have still gone on. I no longer talk with them at all. It is how I survive mentally. As parents, they should be ashamed of themselves. But they are too mentally ill to even know it.

Andrew

Oh Andrew that's too bad that you can't even talk with your own parents. My parents were mentally ill too I think. MY mom passes away about 4 years ago and now I can be who I want to be fat or thin. Of course I prefer being thinner but that is not always my choice. I have hypothyroidism which making lose weight even harder. So does my dog and he is overweight and on a diet!!! Low fat food for him. Just be who you are and know that you are the best person you could be...

[Leigh]

Originally Posted by kfemme

very big hugs to two really great Big Butch Daddies and one wonderful femme,
kfemme

((((((((((((((((((((((((kfemme)))))))))))))))))))) ))))))))))

Sending you back the biggest hug ever

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

Just be who you are and know that you are the best person you could be...

I definately agree with this ~ we can only be the best person that we can personally be, and if no one else likes it I say to heck with them!!!!

[Andrew, Jr.]

Ok, I have to post something here...I love & wear madras of all colors, in shorts and shirts. Most are from India, which I had no idea. And I also like them in all colors - red, navy, black, green, orange, and so on.

My second confession: I love & wear shorts with a pattern on them. For example, navy shorts with red crabs all over; or light blue shorts with martini glasses all over them, or seersucker shorts with lacrosse sticks crossed on them.

Smiling ear to ear,
Andrew

[Rockinonahigh]

Hello Andrew..Byddy I know how u feel about wild shorts,I feel the same about shirts..Hawiian shirts,I have a closet full of them,I get told they are a bit out of style but not to me,last year my cousin went there for vacation and brought me back six of the real deal...love em.

[Andrew, Jr.]

My 3rd Confession: Tropical or Haw. Shirts I have one or two. Well, they maybe outta style, but what the heck. I am 46 yo, so I just am going with the flow at this point.

[ravfem]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Ok, I have to post something here...I love & wear madras of all colors, in shorts and shirts. Most are from India, which I had no idea. And I also like them in all colors - red, navy, black, green, orange, and so on.

My second confession: I love & wear shorts with a pattern on them. For example, navy shorts with red crabs all over; or light blue shorts with martini glasses all over them, or seersucker shorts with lacrosse sticks crossed on them.

Smiling ear to ear,
Andrew

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Hello Andrew..Byddy I know how u feel about wild shorts,I feel the same about shirts..Hawiian shirts,I have a closet full of them,I get told they are a bit out of style but not to me,last year my cousin went there for vacation and brought me back six of the real deal...love em.

we neeeeeeeed pictures!! please??



and as far as "out of style"...who cares!?! i say, wear what ya like, not what others like! (this could be because i have never been "in style", but regardless...)

Have i mentioned we need pictures??

[Rockinonahigh]

Well I have never been in style either,when I was showing horses everyone dresed like a cowboy except me when I wasnt rideing I wore wild tropical shorts n shirts and straw hat.Yep, a rebel even then,about pictures..well when I figure out how to work photo bucket I will gladly post a fue.

[Leigh]

Originally Posted by ravfem

we neeeeeeeed pictures!! please??



and as far as "out of style"...who cares!?! i say, wear what ya like, not what others like! (this could be because i have never been "in style", but regardless...)

Have i mentioned we need pictures??

I agree, us guys should post pics of our "out-of-style" styles

I whole heartedly agree with rav; we should always wear what we like, not what others exect us to cuz ya know we're rebels like that

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

My 3rd Confession: Tropical or Haw. Shirts I have one or two. Well, they maybe outta style, but what the heck. I am 46 yo, so I just am going with the flow at this point.

If you like that style, no matter what the world thinks, wear it proudly bro

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Well I have never been in style either,when I was showing horses everyone dresed like a cowboy except me when I wasnt rideing I wore wild tropical shorts n shirts and straw hat.Yep, a rebel even then,about pictures..well when I figure out how to work photo bucket I will gladly post a fue.

Yeah you should post pics bro, would be neat to see you rock your own style for the world to see and do so proudly

[Cowboi]

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Hello Andrew..Byddy I know how u feel about wild shorts,I feel the same about shirts..Hawiian shirts,I have a closet full of them,I get told they are a bit out of style but not to me,last year my cousin went there for vacation and brought me back six of the real deal...love em.

I don't think they ever go out of style!!!!

[Spoon]

I ha to get this post going again, so I could add my voice to those praising big, beautiful, butches. There is nothing like being on the arm of a big, strong butch & knowing I'll be in her arms that night!

[nycfem]

Originally Posted by Spoon

I ha to get this post going again, so I could add my voice to those praising big, beautiful, butches. There is nothing like being on the arm of a big, strong butch & knowing I'll be in her arms that night!

How very true!

[iamkeri1]

I have been plus size most of my life. I've had times when I was cool with it, and times that it caused me lots of pain. But regarding big butches - THEY are FINE! I agree with posters above who love to be escorted, held and loved by a wonderful big butch. The fire has tested you and made you stronger - I love that strength.
Many Smooches,
Keri

[Leigh]

One of My favorite threads has been revived and I'm so happy about that ~ it still shows Me that us big guys are appreciated and loved by beautiful women

[skeeter_01]

Originally Posted by Braedon

One of My favorite threads has been revived and I'm so happy about that ~ it still shows Me that us big guys are appreciated and loved by beautiful women

Amen brudda!!

[femmebotdyke]

Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat".

With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me.

As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not only attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.

[nycfem]

I love your post and so agree with you! I wish more people had this level of awareness.

Is the interview you mentioned online by chance? I am psyched to hear a psychologist make that point. Very cool

Originally Posted by femmebotdyke

Interesting thread. I tend not to use the terms "obese" or "overweight" because I think that they are negative, pathologizing and unhelpfully position some bodies as normative and others as "deviant". I prefer "fat".

With regards to health, I prefer the HAES (Health at Every Size) approach as an alternative to weight-loss dieting, which I believe is unhealthy. I know a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders and she made the point in a recent interview that the very behaviours prescribed as solutions to those labelled ''overweight'' or ''obese'' are often the same practices she as a practitioner diagnoses in those with clinical eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. I think part of the reason conversations like these are often very highly-charged is that it's difficult to separate out fat stigma from questions around body size and health. Anyway, there are growing number of resources available to fat people- many of them targeted to queer, lesbian, butch/femme and transgender audiences. If anyone's interested in fat-positive materials for butches of size, just message me.

As far as sexual attraction is concerned, I'm not attracted to fat or bigger butches in spite of their size but because of it. A big butch really turns my head and gets the juices flowing! Of course I'm not only attracted to fat butches and instant physical attraction isn't the only or even the primary characteristic I look for in a prospective partner but in a room of otherwise equally attractive butches, it's ze fat butch who attracts and holds my attention first.

[Leigh]

I love this thread