Big Butch Love

Andrew, Jr. · 06-24-2010, 04:36 PM

Lipstickgal,

My parents, esp. my mother, was verbally abusive towards me about my weight growing up. I was very thin and extremely muscular. I was out playing football, tennis, lifting weights, and so on. I weighted maybe 100 pounds soaking wet in high school. Everything else was muscle. She was embarassed by me. I was the exact opposite of her ideals of what it was to be a girl/woman/female gender.

If I talk with them today, the entire conversation is just about my weight. Even if I tell them it is not a subject up for debate or discussion, they ignore it. It wasn't until a friend of theirs was in their home, and walked in on a heated conversation of ours, it would have still gone on. I no longer talk with them at all. It is how I survive mentally. As parents, they should be ashamed of themselves. But they are too mentally ill to even know it.

Andrew

Leigh · 06-24-2010, 07:50 PM

I get sick and tired of people constantly making My weight a big issue ~ yeah I know I'm fat, must you constantly remind Me about that? Many of us live with being overweight every single day and we're perfectly fine without going on crash diets or practically killing ourselves to lose weight, so leave us alone and let us go on with our lives

Sorry guys, I guess Andrew mentioning about his parents got Me on abit of a rant because My dad does the same thing with Me about My weight ......... so I'm just glad that this thread is here so that us bigger butches/guys will know that we are loved and appreciated by femmes just the way that we are

lipstixgal · 06-25-2010, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Lipstickgal,

My parents, esp. my mother, was verbally abusive towards me about my weight growing up. I was very thin and extremely muscular. I was out playing football, tennis, lifting weights, and so on. I weighted maybe 100 pounds soaking wet in high school. Everything else was muscle. She was embarassed by me. I was the exact opposite of her ideals of what it was to be a girl/woman/female gender.

If I talk with them today, the entire conversation is just about my weight. Even if I tell them it is not a subject up for debate or discussion, they ignore it. It wasn't until a friend of theirs was in their home, and walked in on a heated conversation of ours, it would have still gone on. I no longer talk with them at all. It is how I survive mentally. As parents, they should be ashamed of themselves. But they are too mentally ill to even know it.

Andrew

Oh Andrew that's too bad that you can't even talk with your own parents. My parents were mentally ill too I think. MY mom passes away about 4 years ago and now I can be who I want to be fat or thin. Of course I prefer being thinner but that is not always my choice. I have hypothyroidism which making lose weight even harder. So does my dog and he is overweight and on a diet!!! Low fat food for him. Just be who you are and know that you are the best person you could be...

Leigh · 06-25-2010, 10:32 AM

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very big hugs to two really great Big Butch Daddies and one wonderful femme,
kfemme

((((((((((((((((((((((((kfemme)))))))))))))))))))) ))))))))))

Sending you back the biggest hug ever

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Just be who you are and know that you are the best person you could be...

I definately agree with this ~ we can only be the best person that we can personally be, and if no one else likes it I say to heck with them!!!!

Andrew, Jr. · 06-25-2010, 01:17 PM

Ok, I have to post something here...I love & wear madras of all colors, in shorts and shirts. Most are from India, which I had no idea. And I also like them in all colors - red, navy, black, green, orange, and so on.

My second confession: I love & wear shorts with a pattern on them. For example, navy shorts with red crabs all over; or light blue shorts with martini glasses all over them, or seersucker shorts with lacrosse sticks crossed on them.

Smiling ear to ear,
Andrew

Rockinonahigh · 06-25-2010, 02:27 PM

Hello Andrew..Byddy I know how u feel about wild shorts,I feel the same about shirts..Hawiian shirts,I have a closet full of them,I get told they are a bit out of style but not to me,last year my cousin went there for vacation and brought me back six of the real deal...love em.

Andrew, Jr. · 06-25-2010, 02:36 PM

My 3rd Confession: Tropical or Haw. Shirts I have one or two. Well, they maybe outta style, but what the heck. I am 46 yo, so I just am going with the flow at this point.

ravfem · 06-25-2010, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Ok, I have to post something here...I love & wear madras of all colors, in shorts and shirts. Most are from India, which I had no idea. And I also like them in all colors - red, navy, black, green, orange, and so on.

My second confession: I love & wear shorts with a pattern on them. For example, navy shorts with red crabs all over; or light blue shorts with martini glasses all over them, or seersucker shorts with lacrosse sticks crossed on them.

Smiling ear to ear,
Andrew

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Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Hello Andrew..Byddy I know how u feel about wild shorts,I feel the same about shirts..Hawiian shirts,I have a closet full of them,I get told they are a bit out of style but not to me,last year my cousin went there for vacation and brought me back six of the real deal...love em.

we neeeeeeeed pictures!! please??

and as far as "out of style"...who cares!?! i say, wear what ya like, not what others like! (this could be because i have never been "in style", but regardless...)

Have i mentioned we need pictures??

Cowboi · 06-26-2010, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Hello Andrew..Byddy I know how u feel about wild shorts,I feel the same about shirts..Hawiian shirts,I have a closet full of them,I get told they are a bit out of style but not to me,last year my cousin went there for vacation and brought me back six of the real deal...love em.

I don't think they ever go out of style!!!!

Spoon · 08-24-2010, 04:15 PM

I ha to get this post going again, so I could add my voice to those praising big, beautiful, butches. There is nothing like being on the arm of a big, strong butch & knowing I'll be in her arms that night!

06-25-2010, 01:17 PM	#5
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	My 2 confessions... Ok, I have to post something here...I love & wear madras of all colors, in shorts and shirts. Most are from India, which I had no idea. And I also like them in all colors - red, navy, black, green, orange, and so on. My second confession: I love & wear shorts with a pattern on them. For example, navy shorts with red crabs all over; or light blue shorts with martini glasses all over them, or seersucker shorts with lacrosse sticks crossed on them. Smiling ear to ear, Andrew

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06-24-2010, 04:36 PM	#1
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Lipstickgal, My parents, esp. my mother, was verbally abusive towards me about my weight growing up. I was very thin and extremely muscular. I was out playing football, tennis, lifting weights, and so on. I weighted maybe 100 pounds soaking wet in high school. Everything else was muscle. She was embarassed by me. I was the exact opposite of her ideals of what it was to be a girl/woman/female gender. If I talk with them today, the entire conversation is just about my weight. Even if I tell them it is not a subject up for debate or discussion, they ignore it. It wasn't until a friend of theirs was in their home, and walked in on a heated conversation of ours, it would have still gone on. I no longer talk with them at all. It is how I survive mentally. As parents, they should be ashamed of themselves. But they are too mentally ill to even know it. Andrew

06-24-2010, 07:50 PM	#2
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I get sick and tired of people constantly making My weight a big issue ~ yeah I know I'm fat, must you constantly remind Me about that? Many of us live with being overweight every single day and we're perfectly fine without going on crash diets or practically killing ourselves to lose weight, so leave us alone and let us go on with our lives Sorry guys, I guess Andrew mentioning about his parents got Me on abit of a rant because My dad does the same thing with Me about My weight ......... so I'm just glad that this thread is here so that us bigger butches/guys will know that we are loved and appreciated by femmes just the way that we are

06-25-2010, 02:27 PM	#6
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Hello Andrew..Byddy I know how u feel about wild shorts,I feel the same about shirts..Hawiian shirts,I have a closet full of them,I get told they are a bit out of style but not to me,last year my cousin went there for vacation and brought me back six of the real deal...love em.