Sexual Orientation......Who does or does not have one?

[Chazz]

Originally Posted by atomiczombie

I have an orientation. It's femmesensual and queer. Femmesensual means my primary attraction is to femmes. Not straight women. I claim queer because I have little in common with straight people. I just can't relate to them, and I can relate very much to queer-idenitfied folks.

Love the term "femme-sensual". Guess that makes me a "femme-sensual", butch.

I don't date straight women, either; I have little in common with them, too. It's been interesting trying to convey that to straight women (at dating sites) who contact me for a walk on the down-low.

Being a lesbian is NOT just about who I desire sexually, it's also a world view born of a lived experience as not straight, bi, trans~, etc.. A shared world view/commonality of experience is what adds to the intimacy for me.