Sexual Orientation......Who does or does not have one?

Lynn · 04-26-2011, 11:07 PM

I don't mind labels, as long as I get to pick my own, based on what they mean to me.

I'm perfectly comfortable with lesbian. I'd say that lesbian really fits me. Dyke is OK, too. I'm attracted to women, especially women who are more masculine and who are comfortable with that in themselves. I love butches, but I wouldn't say that I have embraced the identity of "femme."

Chazz · 04-27-2011, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Lynn

I don't mind labels, as long as I get to pick my own, based on what they mean to me.

I'm perfectly comfortable with lesbian. I'd say that lesbian really fits me. Dyke is OK, too. I'm attracted to women, especially women who are more masculine and who are comfortable with that in themselves. I love butches, but I wouldn't say that I have embraced the identity of "femme."

I tend to label as butch identified, and sexual. Although I am pegged as "masculine" by everyone, I prefer to identify as "butch" when the situation allows because I am not male identified.

Saying I'm butch-identified provides an opportunity to dispel, the still pervasive myth, that all butches are "male-wannabes". That exact term has been repeated to me so often (most recently at dating sites) by straight and bi women, AND LESBIANS, I clarify at first contact. It's surprising how many people see still confuse gender-presentation with gender identification

Elijah · 04-27-2011, 01:51 PM

Queer...allows room for growth and change.

Martina · 04-27-2011, 02:32 PM

Even though my first sexual dream was about a woman, i started out straight, which was not satisfactory. Like many dykes, i couldn't see what all the fuss was about. i mean men were fine. The sex was good, but i'd rather be with my friends. Finally figured that one out.

For a few years i was a happy dyke. Then my libido went sorta flat. Meeting a hot butch who knew the dance changed all that. From there, i ID'd as femme as well as lesbian.

My mid-life crisis changed a lot about my life. i moved, changed careers, etc. i also dated a couple transmen in a row and rediscovered femmes. i am a dyke and a femme. But my sexual orientation isn't all about butches anymore. Currently, i am in service to a butch-femme couple.

Rediscovering femmes has been a joy. i dated one maybe five years ago who made me feel butch. That didn't last. But the two i have been in service to made me feel more feminine and more like a girl, not less. i can't do without that. i have the privilege of serving the feminine body and spirit. It's hot. Damned hot. i still like butches too. Life is good.

turasultana · 04-27-2011, 02:48 PM

Queer Femme

that's what fits me best.

Soon · 04-27-2011, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by turasultana

Queer Femme

that's what fits me best.

What Tura said.

04-26-2011, 11:07 PM	#1
Lynn Member How Do You Identify?: Unabashed Feminine Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: Her, She Relationship Status: Married! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 689 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,499 Thanked 2,414 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9668976	I don't mind labels, as long as I get to pick my own, based on what they mean to me. I'm perfectly comfortable with lesbian. I'd say that lesbian really fits me. Dyke is OK, too. I'm attracted to women, especially women who are more masculine and who are comfortable with that in themselves. I love butches, but I wouldn't say that I have embraced the identity of "femme." __________________ In the flush of love's light we dare be brave And suddenly we see that love costs all we are and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free. Maya Angelou Wedding Photos: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?...1&l=22b092b98c

04-27-2011, 01:51 PM	#3
Elijah Member How Do You Identify?: Genderqueer Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: Open to healthy possibilities... Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Michigan Posts: 554 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 738 Thanked 1,629 Times in 393 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Queer...allows room for growth and change.

04-27-2011, 02:32 PM	#4
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,283 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Even though my first sexual dream was about a woman, i started out straight, which was not satisfactory. Like many dykes, i couldn't see what all the fuss was about. i mean men were fine. The sex was good, but i'd rather be with my friends. Finally figured that one out. For a few years i was a happy dyke. Then my libido went sorta flat. Meeting a hot butch who knew the dance changed all that. From there, i ID'd as femme as well as lesbian. My mid-life crisis changed a lot about my life. i moved, changed careers, etc. i also dated a couple transmen in a row and rediscovered femmes. i am a dyke and a femme. But my sexual orientation isn't all about butches anymore. Currently, i am in service to a butch-femme couple. Rediscovering femmes has been a joy. i dated one maybe five years ago who made me feel butch. That didn't last. But the two i have been in service to made me feel more feminine and more like a girl, not less. i can't do without that. i have the privilege of serving the feminine body and spirit. It's hot. Damned hot. i still like butches too. Life is good.

04-27-2011, 02:48 PM	#5
turasultana Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: spoken for Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: brooklyn Posts: 432 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 226 Thanked 713 Times in 249 Posts Rep Power: 2043785	Queer Femme that's what fits me best.