Sexual Orientation......Who does or does not have one?

Kobi · 12-09-2010, 08:38 PM

Just when I catch up with the vernacular, I find there is even more!

I like this concept and it seems fitting for a new generation that has far more options, opportunities, and freedoms.
With fluid sexuality, fluid gender etc. becoming so popular, it makes sense for there to be a
new label for something continuing to develop and expand.

And it makes sense to be able to explore sexuality without having to label oneself as this or that.

I'm not too thrilled with the name tho. Postmodern sounds too clinical.
And Pomosexual makes me think of someone who like sex with pomeranians.

There must be a better thing to call it.

Soft*Silver · 12-09-2010, 10:42 PM

I am a heterosexual. I happen to have sex with male ID'd people, whether they are male or female. I do not date femmes. I do not like to date femininzed people. Male or female. When I am in a relationship I am definitely heterosexual. The genitals have nothing to do with it. The lifestyle does.

phooey. I am just so sick of labels and what I am. You wanna know what I am? All I can definitely say is I am a femme. Everything else is subject to contemporary cultural clash. Frankly, I fuck everyone. I fall in love with special ones. I relate heterosexually from the 1950s.

Pomeranian sex made me snort my coca cola out my nose...lol...

swagger · 12-10-2010, 08:58 AM

I made some tshirts saying "pomosexual - because labels suck and not in a good way"

Mostly I'm something of a pomophobe though. To me, labels are language and language is labels..

I define my sexual orientation as any and all of the following: gay, queer, lesbian, dyke

kix4funchick · 12-10-2010, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Kobi

Just when I catch up with the vernacular, I find there is even more!

I like this concept and it seems fitting for a new generation that has far more options, opportunities, and freedoms.
With fluid sexuality, fluid gender etc. becoming so popular, it makes sense for there to be a
new label for something continuing to develop and expand.

And it makes sense to be able to explore sexuality without having to label oneself as this or that.

I'm not too thrilled with the name tho. Postmodern sounds too clinical.
And Pomosexual makes me think of someone who like sex with pomeranians.

There must be a better thing to call it.

Yeah, that's true. Haha, sex with pomeranians. I said the word out loud to myself and I too hate the way it sounds. We should make up a different word for it. I just like what it means. I don't like labels, but I'm mostly a lesbian although there is a very slight chance that I would even consider being with a guy again (like under 1/4 chance of it happening). But yeah, there has to be a better word for somebody who doesn't feel like they should have to label themselves.

LipstickLola · 12-10-2010, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by June

How about "Human". Radical, I know.

Thank you

atomiczombie · 12-10-2010, 02:57 PM

I have an orientation. It's femmesensual and queer. Femmesensual means my primary attraction is to femmes. Not straight women. I claim queer because I have little in common with straight people. I just can't relate to them, and I can relate very much to queer-idenitfied folks.

Soft*Silver · 12-10-2010, 03:45 PM

I am glad you explained femmesensual because I thought you had been femme and were transitioning to masculine. No, I am not kidding. And I am not being derogatory. I kept silent because I didnt want to offend and I have this disdain about labels so I didnt want to ask because I was not going to ever use it in my every day life even if I knew what it was. I thought it had to do with your transitioning FtM ...that you also had to transition from femme to masculine. One of the FtMs I dated had presented as a femme lesbian for years before transitioning. I thought thats what this meant...am I explaining myself?

PumaJ · 02-28-2011, 04:04 AM

I've always been sexually oriented toward Butches. Just as I have always been Femme.

There is just something about the way a Butch runs such strong male energy in a female form that rocks my world. I've pondered about the ID of Lesbian. I mean, technically I'm attracted to other women. But in reality, Butch as a gender is not really a woman, nor a man. Adding Femme to Lesbian is sort of helpful, but Queer is just making more and more sense.

I feel zero sexual attraction to women who are not Butch. That doesn't mean I couldn't be sexual with them, because I have been in friends with benefits types of situations, on a couple of occasions. But I am not sexually attracted by such women, so I would not seek out sexual interactions with them.

AtLast · 02-28-2011, 04:37 AM

Simply put, lesbian.

Chazz · 04-27-2011, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by atomiczombie

I have an orientation. It's femmesensual and queer. Femmesensual means my primary attraction is to femmes. Not straight women. I claim queer because I have little in common with straight people. I just can't relate to them, and I can relate very much to queer-idenitfied folks.

Love the term "femme-sensual". Guess that makes me a "femme-sensual", butch.

I don't date straight women, either; I have little in common with them, too. It's been interesting trying to convey that to straight women (at dating sites) who contact me for a walk on the down-low.

Being a lesbian is NOT just about who I desire sexually, it's also a world view born of a lived experience as not straight, bi, trans~, etc.. A shared world view/commonality of experience is what adds to the intimacy for me.

Heart · 04-27-2011, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Chazz

I don't date straight women, either; I have little in common with them, too. It's been interesting trying to convey that to straight women (at dating sites) who contact me for a walk on the down-low.

Being a lesbian is NOT just about who I desire sexually, it's also a world view born of a lived experience as not straight, bi, trans~, etc.. A shared world view/commonality of experience is what adds to the intimacy for me.

Chazz - Contact you for a "walk" on the DL? Wow. How objectifying. *shakes head*

I was gonna say what Chazz said here, not about str8 women - lol, but that being a lesbian is more than my romantic/erotic/sexual orientation. It's about the community and history I resonate with, the issues & politics I embrace, its part of my identity.

Heart

Martina · 04-27-2011, 03:56 PM

i am culturally a lesbian too, but it's such a generational thing. Young dykes do not know the history, musicians, and books i do -- for the most part. i do not know their references.

i was on chat a while ago, and several of us older dykes were made to feel like fossils when the younguns had never heard of Rubyfruit Jungle.

i do have shared life and cultural experiences that make me a lesbian, but mostly with other lesbians of my generation.

12-09-2010, 08:38 PM	#1
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,617 Times in 7,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Just when I catch up with the vernacular, I find there is even more! I like this concept and it seems fitting for a new generation that has far more options, opportunities, and freedoms. With fluid sexuality, fluid gender etc. becoming so popular, it makes sense for there to be a new label for something continuing to develop and expand. And it makes sense to be able to explore sexuality without having to label oneself as this or that. I'm not too thrilled with the name tho. Postmodern sounds too clinical. And Pomosexual makes me think of someone who like sex with pomeranians. There must be a better thing to call it. __________________

12-09-2010, 10:42 PM	#2
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I am a heterosexual. I happen to have sex with male ID'd people, whether they are male or female. I do not date femmes. I do not like to date femininzed people. Male or female. When I am in a relationship I am definitely heterosexual. The genitals have nothing to do with it. The lifestyle does. phooey. I am just so sick of labels and what I am. You wanna know what I am? All I can definitely say is I am a femme. Everything else is subject to contemporary cultural clash. Frankly, I fuck everyone. I fall in love with special ones. I relate heterosexually from the 1950s. Pomeranian sex made me snort my coca cola out my nose...lol... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

12-10-2010, 08:58 AM	#3
swagger Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch daddy Preferred Pronoun?: i dont care. Relationship Status: happy Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: crush zone Posts: 57 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 43 Thanked 126 Times in 42 Posts Rep Power: 210973	I made some tshirts saying "pomosexual - because labels suck and not in a good way" Mostly I'm something of a pomophobe though. To me, labels are language and language is labels.. I define my sexual orientation as any and all of the following: gay, queer, lesbian, dyke __________________ unapologetically butch

12-10-2010, 02:57 PM	#6
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,220 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have an orientation. It's femmesensual and queer. Femmesensual means my primary attraction is to femmes. Not straight women. I claim queer because I have little in common with straight people. I just can't relate to them, and I can relate very much to queer-idenitfied folks. __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

12-10-2010, 03:45 PM	#7
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,594 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,897 Times in 4,064 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	I am glad you explained femmesensual because I thought you had been femme and were transitioning to masculine. No, I am not kidding. And I am not being derogatory. I kept silent because I didnt want to offend and I have this disdain about labels so I didnt want to ask because I was not going to ever use it in my every day life even if I knew what it was. I thought it had to do with your transitioning FtM ...that you also had to transition from femme to masculine. One of the FtMs I dated had presented as a femme lesbian for years before transitioning. I thought thats what this meant...am I explaining myself? __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

02-28-2011, 04:04 AM	#8
PumaJ Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Queer Feminist Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Portland Metro, Oregon Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,419 Thanked 500 Times in 147 Posts Rep Power: 1652642	I've always been sexually oriented toward Butches. Just as I have always been Femme. There is just something about the way a Butch runs such strong male energy in a female form that rocks my world. I've pondered about the ID of Lesbian. I mean, technically I'm attracted to other women. But in reality, Butch as a gender is not really a woman, nor a man. Adding Femme to Lesbian is sort of helpful, but Queer is just making more and more sense. I feel zero sexual attraction to women who are not Butch. That doesn't mean I couldn't be sexual with them, because I have been in friends with benefits types of situations, on a couple of occasions. But I am not sexually attracted by such women, so I would not seek out sexual interactions with them. __________________ PumaJ

02-28-2011, 04:37 AM	#9
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Simply put, lesbian.

04-27-2011, 03:56 PM	#12
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,283 Times in 4,166 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	i am culturally a lesbian too, but it's such a generational thing. Young dykes do not know the history, musicians, and books i do -- for the most part. i do not know their references. i was on chat a while ago, and several of us older dykes were made to feel like fossils when the younguns had never heard of Rubyfruit Jungle. i do have shared life and cultural experiences that make me a lesbian, but mostly with other lesbians of my generation.