The Psychology of Online Dating

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by knight

Thoughts on loving unconditionally, indiscriminately and selflessly?

I think it's unhealthy to love everyone all the time with all of yourself--no matter what. Absolutely unrealistic too. I have boundaries and if those boundaries are crossed, then that person or persons require me to be more careful with my feelings and emotions around them. My personal, emotional and psychological safety is more important than someone else's feelings.

Maybe I'm a hard ass, but I feel no conflict or remorse about this.

[AmazonDC]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I think it's unhealthy to love everyone all the time with all of yourself--no matter what. Absolutely unrealistic too. I have boundaries and if those boundaries are crossed, then that person or persons require me to be more careful with my feelings and emotions around them. My personal, emotional and psychological safety is more important than someone else's feelings.


Maybe I'm a hard ass, but I feel no conflict or remorse about this.

Hmmm? Interesting thought.. maybe I am just too nice a person

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by DaddyChrisCo

Hmmm? Interesting thought.. maybe I am just too nice a person

Yes, You are. Far too nice.

[kittygrrl]

Thinking back..I never thought getting to know someone online was dating...I just thought of it as fun and often interesting....I regret many things, but that's not one of them

[Greco]

Spot on Gemme. I read your knowledge of the importance of boundaries as Self-love, and Self-protection. And absolutely necessary, period.

Hard-assed? No way Gemme, very healthy indeed. We live in a society where
there are people that have no remorse, or conscience and "suck" the life out of
people that are empathic and have no boundaries.

So, what I've learned is this...to learn what boundaries are, and implement them in my life in all areas, relationships, work, play. And for people that cross boundaries such a huge red flag, they are not allowed in my life in any way, shape or form. No apologies from me.

Right on Gemme.

Greco

Originally Posted by Gemme

I think it's unhealthy to love everyone all the time with all of yourself--no matter what. Absolutely unrealistic too. I have boundaries and if those boundaries are crossed, then that person or persons require me to be more careful with my feelings and emotions around them. My personal, emotional and psychological safety is more important than someone else's feelings.

Maybe I'm a hard ass, but I feel no conflict or remorse about this.