Breeder and other words we use to hurt our own.

[friskyfemme]

After reading through this thread and responses to words used in other threads perceived as 'offensive', I have to say I am sitting here with a wrinkled brow.

I am thinking that some here just enjoy debating, some here are supersensitive to word choices, some are narcisstic, some are referees, some are educators, some are activists.

I agree that words are powerful weapons and powerful expressions of thought. We, humans, in years past were raised by the rules determined in our small corner of the world in which we were raised. This includes morals, ideas, spiritual belief, image of self,
image of others and opportunities. IMHO, when we are adults, we have the ability to decipher whether what we were exposed to growing up 'fits' into the collective Society(whatever it is). I firmly believe in exchange of ideas and opinions. What I strongly object to is the 'one ups' some seem to have in response to another's opinion. I don't think anyone should have to defend what word or phrases they find offensive. If it offenses anyone, than once I you're aware of it. Dont repeat it! (unless of course that is your intention than the you 'deserve/wish' to be dissed)

What I suggest is a thread where members can identify words/phrases that they find offensive.

This from a mother, grandmother, woman, femme, lover of stones, human being.

[The_Lady_Snow]

I am confused by all this right....

I can't understand how someone asking for the word breeder not to be used to describe a woman's pregnancy can not be understood..

I am not stupid I understand the patriarchy, and what was hammered into us.

But can't it be understood that maybe when some of us hear that word, it makes us cringe, cause god damn I was pregnant, not bred, and it was a terrifying, happy, life altering experience..

It fucking SUCKS to have it reduced to nothing when someone calls you a breeder or refers to it as a breeder thing or have been bred or any insinuation of that...

Can't you get that? Cause that is what we are saying at least I am.

Damn, it would be like me being an inconsiderate ass hat and refering to someone as hy when they are she...


end of rant.

[Liam]

Originally Posted by friskyfemme

What I suggest is a thread where members can identify words/phrases that they find offensive.

That was the original intention of this thread.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Liam

That was the original intention of this thread.

Right????

[Oneida]

I've used the term in reference to straight women because, if I'm being honest, it was a way to disparage them and their choices in order to make me feel better about the fact that I did not have children/family of my own/picket fence (and at that/those moments DID want that). Let's face it, it's a mean/ugly word used to put someone down and elevate oneself. Why do we do that? For my example, I'd say it was #2.


Why We Judge (just a little list found on the internet w/ a quick search)

1. We don’t know how to love.
2. We are insecure.
3. We are influenced by our past conditioning.
4. We are afraid of something in someone else.
5. We are afraid of something within ourselves.
6. We are hiding the fact that we don’t understand something.
7. Our position of power feels threatened.
8. We are unaware about how our thoughts become reality.
9. We aren’t evolved enough to have empathy for others.
10. It’s a habit.

[friskyfemme]

'What I suggest is a thread where members can identify words/phrases that they find offensive'.

Hey guess what! Medusa start this thread in December 09. Thanks Medusa!
Maybe this thread shoud be required reading before posting! :blushing: