what NOT to do in a relationship.......

betenoire · 07-30-2010, 05:57 AM

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Originally Posted by MrSunshine

fucking weeds do

Fucking needy-ass weeds.

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Please if you whine or have a habit of whining disclose this to all parties so that the non whining party can tell you to bounce!

The only thing that is worse than whining is silent pouting. Pissed off at me? Be prepared to say so AND say why. If you can't/won't do that I will presume you are pissed about something REALLY stupid and I won't give a shit.

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

oh.
never get jealous of the love a potential mate has for their fur babies.
you will lose.

Exactly. If you cannot accept how much mommy loves her Baby Smelly who is Orange (and when he's not Orange he's White) you're in for a world full of aggravation. Sulking when I dote all over my Baby Smelly will only make me dote all over Baby Smelly even more - my favourite person/pet in the room is always the one who is not sulking.

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Who the hell has furniture that costs that much?

For fucking real.

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Originally Posted by Oiler41

Or the reverse; don't invest large sums of money into a large asset that doesn't have your name on it.

I think that's sensible. If only one person has their name on the deed to the house, the person who doesn't have their name on it should NOT be paying 50% of the mortgage and house expenses and what they DO pay needs to be negotiated as rent and there should be receipts given for that each month.

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

having an inoperative decoy remote is
BAD.
BAD.
BAD.

having an inoperative decoy remote is
BRILLIANT.
BRILLIANT.
BRILLIANT.

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Originally Posted by desdansmoncoeur

- don't use sex as a bribe or punishment

On the flip side of that, I really cannot fuck someone who I am angry with. It feels dishonest.

EDITED to add: Do not call me at work. I am working.

RockOn · 07-30-2010, 06:06 AM

What not to do?

I will be careful not to be so trusting so fast and give 100% in the very beginning. I have only given 100% once in my entire life.

Once I fell in love way too quickly with a wonderful woman. I fell so fast and out of control. It was not her fault but entirely mine. That only happened one time in my almost 54 years. It won't happen again.

Today, I keep my heart very guarded and have no use for LDR/Online relationships except for platonic.

Happy Friday to all!

Brock

dark_crystal · 07-30-2010, 08:11 AM

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Originally Posted by betenoire

EDITED to add: Do not call me at work. I am working.

and do not second-guess me when i tell you i cannot do something because of a work conflict- including posting online, sending a fax for you, taking a day off, or returning your phone call. Even if "last time" i could, if i say "this time i can't," then i seriously can't!

i am the only one who knows for sure what will and will not be cool with the powers that be on any given day!

Lynn · 07-30-2010, 08:25 AM

While concern for my safety and wellbeing is great, don't patronize me and treat me like I'm incapable of taking care of myself. I assure you, I can and I will.

Soon · 07-30-2010, 08:29 AM

Expect a pattern of behaviour or a certain appearance based on previous lovers and/or what you think a woman or femme should be like.

MrSunshine · 07-30-2010, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by HowSoonIsNow

Expect a pattern of behaviour or a certain appearance based on previous lovers and/or what you think a woman or femme should be like.

Yes, same can be said for butch/he/she/whatnot should be like. Individuality is hard for some to separate I suppose.

Soon · 07-30-2010, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by MrSunshine

Yes, same can be said for butch/he/she/whatnot should be like. Individuality is hard for some to separate I suppose.

yes, i was going to edit it to include the other way around too, but i got caught up in something.

it seems like people were posting from their *me* space so that is why i originally wrote what i did.

but i agree with you! some may wish to mash a new lover into an old or set mental framework (for either gender)--not cool.

The_Lady_Snow · 07-30-2010, 09:07 AM

Please disclose any kind of mental illness, sexual illness, ANY kind of illness early on in the relationship.

No surprise body take overs from your Russian Uncle making you speak tongues and all that or violent outbursts where I am having to dodge candles and the cookie jar cause you forgot to mention you had MPD.

07-30-2010, 08:25 AM	#4
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07-30-2010, 06:06 AM	#2
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07-30-2010, 08:29 AM	#5
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