"Butch" and "Femme" - Truly Antiquated Terms or More Marginalization?

[Cyclopea]

Originally Posted by Corkey

Not that I care one way or the other if you all get this, but just because english is spoken here doesn't mean the rest of the world uses it or speaks it. Therefore just because one uses lesbian for themselves, doesn't mean the rest of the world uses it as a label. On the Greek isle of Lesbos, the citizens want to change the word lesbian to not mean the women who come from Lesobs, because of the connotation. They find the usage of their island name harmful to them.
Now several folks have stated their belief that they aren't lesbian, that should be enough. Those who wish to be called lesbian are free to do so, but we all can agree to disagree. What we all need to remember is that each one of us are different individuals and therefore are using different descriptors of who we are. Simple yes?

Corkey I was responding as a lesbian to a post by a non-lesbian about lesbians. Specifically that "Lesbian does not equal homosexual". I think you must have missed the flow of conversation here. I really don't understand what your comments have to do with it, although I suspect that your intentions are good.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Cyclopea

Corkey I was responding as a lesbian to a post by a non-lesbian about lesbians. Specifically that "Lesbian does not equal homosexual". I think you must have missed the flow of conversation here. I really don't understand what your comments have to do with it.

Gotcha! Okay, so I'll cop to wording that backwards and maybe that's where all of your focus has shifted. I can understand that, then.

So I am now...since I cannot edit my post at this point...asking you to see it from the other side. That all homosexuals are not necessarily lesbians. Does that make more sense to you?

[Corkey]

Originally Posted by Cyclopea

Corkey I was responding as a lesbian to a post by a non-lesbian about lesbians. Specifically that "Lesbian does not equal homosexual". I think you must have missed the flow of conversation here. I really don't understand what your comments have to do with it, although I suspect that your intentions are good.

Not ALL homosexual women are Lesbian, simple as that. I am Not a lesbian, you are, your truth doesn't over ride mine.

[Cyclopea]

Originally Posted by Gemme

Gotcha! Okay, so I'll cop to wording that backwards and maybe that's where all of your focus has shifted. I can understand that, then.

So I am now...since I cannot edit my post at this point...asking you to see it from the other side. That all homosexuals are not necessarily lesbians. Does that make more sense to you?

My focus has not shifted. You said that lesbian was not synonymous with homosexual. Yet it is. It doesn't matter if you say it backwards or forwards. Obviously gay men are not lesbians, nor are heterosexuals or bisexuals. Lesbian is a synonym for female homosexual.

Originally Posted by Corkey

Not ALL homosexual women are Lesbian, simple as that. I am Not a lesbian, you are, your truth doesn't over ride mine.

It's not "my" truth- it's the english language, which is the one we are using here. So I guess what you mean to say is "that's the english language, not mine".
Tired of repeating myself! So I'll leave you kids to it!

On a personal note: when someone tells me they are not a lesbian/female homosexual, I believe them and accept them as such!