Scaring straight women.. rawwrrr... lol

little_ms_sunshyne · 05-31-2011, 08:32 PM

I once had to share a hotel room with a married woman while at a conference(wont get into the specifics). Half of the night she asked me what I thought was hot about her (oh yes) and the other half was asking me how I thought her ass looked. You can imagine I was not thrilled to answer these questions. I avoided them as best I could by giving generic answers like "yup, its ok" We had a few drinks...ok who are we kidding a whole bunch of drinks and before you know it she was trying to seduce me AS IF I was interested.

Ummmmm...I tucked her into bed and told her she would regret it in the morning

Funny how straight women just assume I am interested once they find out I am a lesbian...I have standards...SHEESH!

princessbelle · 05-31-2011, 09:28 PM

A long time ago i was in Gatlinburg with a bunch of people, some friends and some friends of friends. It had been brought up by one of my "friends* that i was gay and had been a topic of the day. The....what do you do when you have sex, if you like them butch why not just have a "man", where you born "this" way, were you abused as a child, on and on, the typical crap questions that most of us roll our eyes to and pray they end quickly.

We had decided to get one of those old time pictures made and 3 of us went into the dressing room at one time. I noticed two of the girls, i didn't know that well, were with me and were sorta huddled together in the corner of this big room where we dressed. I just thought, well they are sorta odd.

It did not OCCUR to me until DAYS later what they were probably thinking....i would galk at them or admire/want them cause i'm "gay". They were definately uncomfortable with me in there with them. When i figured out this was more than likely the reason for them acting so strange it hurt my feelings so bad and made me sick.

You know sometimes i still feel like an alien on this planet. Like someone that once it is "out" that i'm gay i am then some wild animal after anything in a skirt and will stop at nothing to get it.

I get so frustrated and shocked at how *some* straight people still see us. I don't know whether to laugh or cry.

LaneyDoll · 06-01-2011, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by princessbelle

They were definately uncomfortable with me in there with them. When i figured out this was more than likely the reason for them acting so strange it hurt my feelings so bad and made me sick.

You know sometimes i still feel like an alien on this planet. Like someone that once it is "out" that i'm gay i am then some wild animal after anything in a skirt and will stop at nothing to get it.

I get so frustrated and shocked at how *some* straight people still see us. I don't know whether to laugh or cry.

That sucks!!! But laugh about it, you are not the one with a closed mind

~taking a moment to be thankful that most of my female friends are bi AND in some form of alt lifestyle~

starryeyes · 05-31-2011, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

I once had to share a hotel room with a married woman while at a conference(wont get into the specifics). Half of the night she asked me what I thought was hot about her (oh yes) and the other half was asking me how I thought her ass looked. You can imagine I was not thrilled to answer these questions. I avoided them as best I could by giving generic answers like "yup, its ok" We had a few drinks...ok who are we kidding a whole bunch of drinks and before you know it she was trying to seduce me AS IF I was interested.

Ummmmm...I tucked her into bed and told her she would regret it in the morning

Funny how straight women just assume I am interested once they find out I am a lesbian...I have standards...SHEESH!

yuck! That is so gross....

Martina · 06-01-2011, 01:05 AM

generally, i get the "oh i can see it now" when i come out to people because i am not that feminine. i don't do my nails, wear makeup. When i was thinner, i wore heels, and i do prefer skirts, but i am still very low maintenance. i do pass however.

But when i come out, they accept my identity. i don't get that stuff about something bad happened to me as a child or i just haven't met the right man.

i think there is enough andro in me that their gestalt shifts, and they say, "Ah. i see it now." i have a low voice too.

Anyway, you all online may find this hard to believe, but people tend to like me. And i do see people sort of grieve the person they thought i was. Usually i come out pretty fast, but sometimes for whatever reason, i get to know someone a litte before she learns i am gay. It's weird sometimes witnessing that sense of loss. i guess they can't be friends with a lesbian. Or drop their guard enough for whatever reason to be comfortable around one.

On the other hand, i have a great straight woman friend. She has other lesbian friends. i also have a good friend whose wife's best friend is a dyke. i feel super comfortable around her. i like the company of women. It's sad to feel cut off from that when they can't deal with the fact that i am a dyke.

imperfect_cupcake · 06-22-2011, 05:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Martina

It's weird sometimes witnessing that sense of loss.

That. It usually takes a while for whatever office I'm working in (I temp a lot) for it to trickle round the office I'm a gayer. English people are pretty good at not letting a beat pass between "... my wife...." and the next sentence. It's a relief to not have to deal with the facial reactions any more. However, the subtle change of behaviour is sometimes a bit sad (if I care enough to notice). I do get some strange expressions of suprise when I talk about my wigs and my sky scraper heels and pictures on my phone of my wedding etc. I usually just laugh it off with "oh I'm really just a big ol drag queen inside." that either confuses them enough to never ever ask again or a light bulb goes on in some bizzare way. The straight girls who do get it are a hoot though.

05-31-2011, 09:28 PM	#2
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	A long time ago i was in Gatlinburg with a bunch of people, some friends and some friends of friends. It had been brought up by one of my "friends* that i was gay and had been a topic of the day. The....what do you do when you have sex, if you like them butch why not just have a "man", where you born "this" way, were you abused as a child, on and on, the typical crap questions that most of us roll our eyes to and pray they end quickly. We had decided to get one of those old time pictures made and 3 of us went into the dressing room at one time. I noticed two of the girls, i didn't know that well, were with me and were sorta huddled together in the corner of this big room where we dressed. I just thought, well they are sorta odd. It did not OCCUR to me until DAYS later what they were probably thinking....i would galk at them or admire/want them cause i'm "gay". They were definately uncomfortable with me in there with them. When i figured out this was more than likely the reason for them acting so strange it hurt my feelings so bad and made me sick. You know sometimes i still feel like an alien on this planet. Like someone that once it is "out" that i'm gay i am then some wild animal after anything in a skirt and will stop at nothing to get it. I get so frustrated and shocked at how some straight people still see us. I don't know whether to laugh or cry. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

05-31-2011, 08:32 PM	#1
little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,241 Times in 2,541 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I once had to share a hotel room with a married woman while at a conference(wont get into the specifics). Half of the night she asked me what I thought was hot about her (oh yes) and the other half was asking me how I thought her ass looked. You can imagine I was not thrilled to answer these questions. I avoided them as best I could by giving generic answers like "yup, its ok" We had a few drinks...ok who are we kidding a whole bunch of drinks and before you know it she was trying to seduce me AS IF I was interested. Ummmmm...I tucked her into bed and told her she would regret it in the morning Funny how straight women just assume I am interested once they find out I am a lesbian...I have standards...SHEESH!

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Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,284 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	generally, i get the "oh i can see it now" when i come out to people because i am not that feminine. i don't do my nails, wear makeup. When i was thinner, i wore heels, and i do prefer skirts, but i am still very low maintenance. i do pass however. But when i come out, they accept my identity. i don't get that stuff about something bad happened to me as a child or i just haven't met the right man. i think there is enough andro in me that their gestalt shifts, and they say, "Ah. i see it now." i have a low voice too. Anyway, you all online may find this hard to believe, but people tend to like me. And i do see people sort of grieve the person they thought i was. Usually i come out pretty fast, but sometimes for whatever reason, i get to know someone a litte before she learns i am gay. It's weird sometimes witnessing that sense of loss. i guess they can't be friends with a lesbian. Or drop their guard enough for whatever reason to be comfortable around one. On the other hand, i have a great straight woman friend. She has other lesbian friends. i also have a good friend whose wife's best friend is a dyke. i feel super comfortable around her. i like the company of women. It's sad to feel cut off from that when they can't deal with the fact that i am a dyke.