BBW lovers thread

ScandalAndy · 08-24-2011, 10:55 AM

I'm seriously thinking about going through all y'all's photos to tell you what is awesome about each and every one of you. F'realz, I will. I feel yucky when people get down on themselves because they get so caught up in one thing they don't like that they just shove all the great stuff about themselves off in a corner and that's not fair.

Leigh · 08-24-2011, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

I'm seriously thinking about going through all y'all's photos to tell you what is awesome about each and every one of you. F'realz, I will. I feel yucky when people get down on themselves because they get so caught up in one thing they don't like that they just shove all the great stuff about themselves off in a corner and that's not fair.

I know its not fair and I try My hardest not to do that, but unfortunately when all you've heard all your life are things like your fat/unworthy etc after awhile you tend to believe it because it becomes second nature. I spent My entire childhood and teenage school years being teased and tormented because of My size, and I often went home crying due to the hell I experienced. And as much as I love My dad, he doesn't help either but unfortunately due to lack of funds I have to live with him for now (thank goodness for My mom and sister keepin Me sane). One day I will believe that I'm not the person everyone makes fun of Me for but it is hard ~ in two weeks once My sister is back in school I'm taking My life back!!!! :-)

ScandalAndy · 08-24-2011, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Matthew

I know its not fair and I try My hardest not to do that, but unfortunately when all you've heard all your life are things like your fat/unworthy etc after awhile you tend to believe it because it becomes second nature. I spent My entire childhood and teenage school years being teased and tormented because of My size, and I often went home crying due to the hell I experienced. And as much as I love My dad, he doesn't help either but unfortunately due to lack of funds I have to live with him for now (thank goodness for My mom and sister keepin Me sane). One day I will believe that I'm not the person everyone makes fun of Me for but it is hard ~ in two weeks once My sister is back in school I'm taking My life back!!!! :-)

Do you still get angry every time someone says something mean to/about you? If you answered yes, then there's still fight left in ya, and still a part that says "NO FLIPPING WAY, YOU ARE WRONG ABOUT ME!". Embrace it, you know inside that they are wrong, and you are worth caring for.

Library_girl · 08-24-2011, 11:25 AM

WOW!!! There have been a lot of posts on here since last night! I'm not quoting anyone because I am loving ALL of what is being said here. Wow! This thread is great. I have to say it's doing wonders for me right now. I accept myself and for at least least a little while, I've been okay with my big curvy body. I'm comfortable with myself. But I am so thrilled to hear all these celebrations of BBWs out here. I never hear that. I live in a place where everyone looks like a lesbian from The L-Word. Seriously. No really hot butches, and no one who weighs more than 107. Ugh. I feel so out of place. So I have really struggled to keep telling myself that I can be beautiful just as I am. I know I am, but it's hard when I am the only voice saying it.

So THANK YOU to everyone in this thread! Woo hoo!

Leigh · 08-24-2011, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Library_girl

WOW!!! There have been a lot of posts on here since last night! I'm not quoting anyone because I am loving ALL of what is being said here. Wow! This thread is great. I have to say it's doing wonders for me right now. I accept myself and for at least least a little while, I've been okay with my big curvy body. I'm comfortable with myself. But I am so thrilled to hear all these celebrations of BBWs out here. I never hear that. I live in a place where everyone looks like a lesbian from The L-Word. Seriously. No really hot butches, and no one who weighs more than 107. Ugh. I feel so out of place. So I have really struggled to keep telling myself that I can be beautiful just as I am. I know I am, but it's hard when I am the only voice saying it.

So THANK YOU to everyone in this thread! Woo hoo!

You are simply breathtaking, beautiful and wonderful LG ~ I told you that this morning when we chatted and I'm telling you again now, only atleast people can see it for themselves

Slater · 08-24-2011, 12:24 PM

Gosh so much that I want to respond to in here right now. First, I have dated women who were a range of body shapes and sizes, some more slender than me, some larger than me, and some in between. And I can say that not once was there ANYTHING about their bodies that I felt like I had to "look past" or "try to accept" or do anything about other than lust after and enjoy. Not once. Not ever. If I'm attracted to someone then I am attracted to them, period.

But it's always easier to apply these lessons to other people than it is to oneself. Be patient with yourself. I have battled body issues on several fronts (and the occasional rear) for a long time and am still trying to get it right.

Wish I had time to stay more, but I ought to get back to work. Oh and I had heard of Adipositivity but had never been to the site before -- but hello! Really amazing.

Library_girl · 08-24-2011, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Matthew

You are simply breathtaking, beautiful and wonderful LG ~ I told you that this morning when we chatted and I'm telling you again now, only atleast people can see it for themselves

You are toooo sweet!

Leigh · 08-24-2011, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

Do you still get angry every time someone says something mean to/about you? If you answered yes, then there's still fight left in ya, and still a part that says "NO FLIPPING WAY, YOU ARE WRONG ABOUT ME!". Embrace it, you know inside that they are wrong, and you are worth caring for.

There is still a mountain of fight left in Me; sometimes I wanna give in and throw in the towel but that would be giving up on Myself and thats not an option. I know everyone is wrong about Me, I know that people see what a good person I am and I am learning to channel that inner strength to the outside. I AM worth caring for and I'm learning that alot more as time goes on ~ its very empowering :-)

lettertodaddy · 08-24-2011, 12:42 PM

No hot butches? Nobody who weighs over 107? Do you live in Vancouver? We were the stand in for LA in The L Word, you know.

Typing this on an iPhone keyboard is insanity.

Leigh · 08-24-2011, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Library_girl

You are toooo sweet!

Just being honest honey :-)

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Originally Posted by lettertodaddy

No hot butches? Nobody who weighs over 107? Do you live in Vancouver? We were the stand in for LA in The L Word, you know.

Typing this on an iPhone keyboard is insanity.

Geez, maybe Vancouver is alot more like Winnipeg than I thought

Library_girl · 08-24-2011, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by lettertodaddy

No hot butches? Nobody who weighs over 107? Do you live in Vancouver? We were the stand in for LA in The L Word, you know.

Typing this on an iPhone keyboard is insanity.

Letter,
I live in Palm Springs! I imagine iPhone typing is a bitch. I'm on my iPad right now and it's a bit frustrating to say the least!

Slater · 08-24-2011, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Library_girl

Letter,
I live in Palm Springs! I imagine iPhone typing is a bitch. I'm on my iPad right now and it's a bit frustrating to say the least!

Seattle seems to have waaaaay more butches than femmes. At least it has always seemed that way to me, though I cannot really speak to whether or not it has many hot butches. You would have to consult an expert on that one.

--Slater, who is also typing on an iPad and is waiting for the inevitable autocorrect disaster

ScandalAndy · 08-25-2011, 06:35 AM

Good morning BBWs and BBW lovers!!

Quick question, do you have a particular style preference?

Some people prefer classic style, some like urban, some go for the hippie look. Me, I think I'm sitting here at the intersection of rockabilly pinup. Just wondering what makes you feel good, makes you look like a million dollars!

msW8ing · 08-25-2011, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

Good morning BBWs and BBW lovers!!

Quick question, do you have a particular style preference?

Some people prefer classic style, some like urban, some go for the hippie look. Me, I think I'm sitting here at the intersection of rockabilly pinup. Just wondering what makes you feel good, makes you look like a million dollars!

For me it depends on where I'm going, what I'm doing, and whom I'm with. I go from dressy/lacey/frilly to office professional to jeans and a tank top. My personal taste falls somewhere between Stevie Nicks like dresses to Wynona Judd type blouses and slacks.

ScandalAndy · 08-25-2011, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by MsW8ing

For me it depends on where I'm going, what I'm doing, and whom I'm with. I go from dressy/lacey/frilly to office professional to jeans and a tank top. My personal taste falls somewhere between Stevie Nicks like dresses to Wynona Judd type blouses and slacks.

I like! That sounds lovely!

08-24-2011, 10:55 AM	#1
ScandalAndy Member How Do You Identify?: human femme spitfire Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: it's official! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: east coast USA Posts: 1,167 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,758 Thanked 3,217 Times in 753 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I'm seriously thinking about going through all y'all's photos to tell you what is awesome about each and every one of you. F'realz, I will. I feel yucky when people get down on themselves because they get so caught up in one thing they don't like that they just shove all the great stuff about themselves off in a corner and that's not fair. __________________ The joy of discovery is certainly the liveliest that the mind of man can ever feel. - Claude Bernard (1813-78)

08-24-2011, 12:24 PM	#6
Slater Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Seattle area Posts: 147 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 41 Thanked 793 Times in 129 Posts Rep Power: 14631970	Gosh so much that I want to respond to in here right now. First, I have dated women who were a range of body shapes and sizes, some more slender than me, some larger than me, and some in between. And I can say that not once was there ANYTHING about their bodies that I felt like I had to "look past" or "try to accept" or do anything about other than lust after and enjoy. Not once. Not ever. If I'm attracted to someone then I am attracted to them, period. But it's always easier to apply these lessons to other people than it is to oneself. Be patient with yourself. I have battled body issues on several fronts (and the occasional rear) for a long time and am still trying to get it right. Wish I had time to stay more, but I ought to get back to work. Oh and I had heard of Adipositivity but had never been to the site before -- but hello! Really amazing. __________________ Slater Last edited by Slater; 08-24-2011 at 12:27 PM. Reason: Forgot something

08-24-2011, 12:42 PM	#9
lettertodaddy Member How Do You Identify?: dorky queer femme bottom Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones Relationship Status: single, dammit. Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: vancouver, bc Posts: 240 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 157 Thanked 715 Times in 158 Posts Rep Power: 8075874	No hot butches? Nobody who weighs over 107? Do you live in Vancouver? We were the stand in for LA in The L Word, you know. Typing this on an iPhone keyboard is insanity. __________________ "If I'm in a room full of cookies, the cookies ain't got no damn chance." - Charles Barkley The meaning behind my screen name:

08-25-2011, 06:35 AM	#13
ScandalAndy Member How Do You Identify?: human femme spitfire Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: it's official! Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: east coast USA Posts: 1,167 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,758 Thanked 3,217 Times in 753 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Good morning BBWs and BBW lovers!! Quick question, do you have a particular style preference? Some people prefer classic style, some like urban, some go for the hippie look. Me, I think I'm sitting here at the intersection of rockabilly pinup. Just wondering what makes you feel good, makes you look like a million dollars! __________________ The joy of discovery is certainly the liveliest that the mind of man can ever feel. - Claude Bernard (1813-78)

08-24-2011, 11:25 AM	#4
Library_girl Member How Do You Identify?: Old School Femme, girl, babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, & other girly words Relationship Status: Married to DJ Bear Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Happily married in Nevada Posts: 378 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,113 Thanked 1,247 Times in 280 Posts Rep Power: 13864640	WOW!!! There have been a lot of posts on here since last night! I'm not quoting anyone because I am loving ALL of what is being said here. Wow! This thread is great. I have to say it's doing wonders for me right now. I accept myself and for at least least a little while, I've been okay with my big curvy body. I'm comfortable with myself. But I am so thrilled to hear all these celebrations of BBWs out here. I never hear that. I live in a place where everyone looks like a lesbian from The L-Word. Seriously. No really hot butches, and no one who weighs more than 107. Ugh. I feel so out of place. So I have really struggled to keep telling myself that I can be beautiful just as I am. I know I am, but it's hard when I am the only voice saying it. So THANK YOU to everyone in this thread! Woo hoo!