Flirting by text

Gemme · 04-03-2012, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ruffryder

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

Like booboo, I'm very flirty. I make sure my partners know and understand that that won't stop once we become a couple. Most of the time, that's part of what attracted them to me in the first place. Sometimes, though, what attracts someone to me will become a point of contention later on.

If a partner feels that my actions are inappropriate, we'll discuss it. If I see it the same way, I'll adapt my behavior.

In the specific case of flirting by text, I wouldn't do it. You know when it comes close to the line and I just don't like to toe that closely. Yes, I feel it's a form of emotional cheating.

The kind of flirting I do, via text or in person, I would happily do with my partner next to me.

*Anya* · 04-03-2012, 09:40 AM

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

For me personally: I would not flirt with someone else, either by text or in person, while in a committed, monogamous relationship (which I am) nor would I involve myself in someone else's relationship.

I think it is a form of emotional infidelity and I will not go there. I think flirting elsewhere indicates some sort of problem within the primary relationship.

This is an important value, which my partner and I both share.

I think that one can be friendly without flirting.

For a couple that is not monogamous-different rules and expectations, of course.

bkisbutchenuff · 04-03-2012, 06:34 PM

I love text flirting! It can be really sensual and hot!

ruby_woo · 04-03-2012, 08:14 PM

I like flirting via text message because I'm a gigantic dork in real life, but over text message I at least have a moment to come up with clever to say.

Yup.

Bèsame* · 04-20-2013, 03:42 PM

flirting...not going so well for me. I need practice....volunteers? ......huge smile....

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