Why can't I.....

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by tantalizingfemme

go poop around Dapper after being together over 3 years? I worry about what is going to happen when we move in together. I think I am really up shit's creek.

I wonder if it is because I have control issues......


What can't you do around your significant other?

Well first of all, tantalizing femme, LOL, I think it's okay to always keep a few things out of your partner's view, to keep a few things behind the curtain, no matter what stage your relationship is in. You know, some mystery?

You say it like it's a bad thing, that you don't "poop" around your sweetie. I think ... it's really okay. Maybe it's healthy to have a little bit of private ground, some harmless bit of inviolable space, within shared space.

Some old movie I remember, it had Jill Clayburg, I can't remember the title—anyway, the man she's dating says he wants them to grow old together, and put their teeth in the same glass, and she says, "I want my own glass."

I was with a woman for ten years and we used to laugh and say, "I want my own glass," sometimes. We let each other have that little bit of separateness, when we needed it.

And btw, congratulations on moving in together!!