A newly dating/sex/corsets/butch appreciatin question

Dude · 09-13-2012, 08:42 PM

I have been looking at pretty bras for the last hour? I'm supportive,
like that... snort
this one is at Torrid

Dance-with-me · 09-13-2012, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Dude

I have been looking at pretty bras for the last hour? I'm supportive,
like that... snort
this one is at Torrid

Dude, you are so very kind and generous with your time! I appreciate so much that you selflessly sacrificed your time to help someone that you don't even know.

(And yes, that's a very pretty one! Definitely one I'd consider!)

Nadeest · 09-13-2012, 09:24 PM

Even if hy doesn't like corsets, I'm quite sure that hy will appreciate that you have made an effort to please hym.

CherylNYC · 09-13-2012, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Nadeest

Even if hy doesn't like corsets, I'm quite sure that hy will appreciate that you have made an effort to please hym.

@Nadeest- According to Dance, her butch uses female pronouns. (My pet peeve.)

*Anya* · 09-14-2012, 05:49 AM

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Originally Posted by CherylNYC

@Nadeest- According to Dance, her butch uses female pronouns. (My pet peeve.)

Also @ ocean and a general reminder to everyone else:

Why oh why is there an assumption that all butches use male pronouns ( or all the derivatives)?

Many do not!

jac · 09-14-2012, 05:58 AM

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Originally Posted by *Anya*

Also @ ocean and a general reminder to everyone else:

Why oh why is there an assumption that all butches use male pronouns ( or all the derivatives)?

Many do not!

Awww I would like to think it was an innocent mistake and has been brought to the attention of all... and will be duly noted, but omg please oh please let's stay on track with the OP and lingerie and corsets and other soft comfy frilly non-frilly sleepwear and tease/please attire!!

I'm a perv at heart... stay focused!

Nadeest · 09-14-2012, 08:35 AM

"@Nadeest- According to Dance, her butch uses female pronouns. (My pet peeve.) "

Oh! Now I know! Thank you for correcting me.

bcelly1894 · 09-14-2012, 11:55 AM

Hello Dance,
Have a beautiful sexy weekend with your butch treat.
After 8 years without sex.

Im surprised that you didnt drive 100 miles

to her each day butt naked wearing a lunchbox costume that opened up only to reveal your beautiful sexy size 16/18 self.
I just joined this site and seeing all of the responces of support

to your questions was fantastic and makes me like this site more and more.
It also had me thinking about all of the ways that you could go about thanking your butch treat.
All I know is that Im going to be waiting patiently to read how it all went for you this weekend.

Dance-with-me · 09-14-2012, 12:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nadeest

"@Nadeest- According to Dance, her butch uses female pronouns. (My pet peeve.) "

Oh! Now I know! Thank you for correcting me.

Actually she's good either way, but I totally get why it's important to pay attention to these things.

Dance-with-me · 09-15-2012, 03:22 PM

Have a few minutes to myself so thought I'd update. Stopped by Torrent on the way - Oh. My. Maude. If a lot more things had fit me right I would have descimmated my budget instead of just seriously damaging it!! I was disappointed to not find any of their teddies or bustiers to fit me right, but I did get a cute date outfit and some very nice/sexy bra and panty sets. I may see if she wants to go tomorrow to the local Lane Bryant (which she said carries all of their sexy intimates, unlike the LB store near me) and help me pick something out.

I have to worry a bit about getting arrested if she comes into the dressing room with me...

Dude · 09-13-2012, 09:33 PM

"research"

seriously , how funny are we?

I have never seen anyone get a welcoming
committee , quite like this , that I can remember

Dance-with-me · 09-13-2012, 10:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dude

"research"

seriously , how funny are we?

I have never seen anyone get a welcoming
committee , quite like this , that I can remember

I'm going to have to rally all of you to do an Extreme Makeover: Femme Who's Allowed Herself to Get Frumpy edition!

Seriously, you have no idea how much I need and would LOVE to have a bunch of femme's to go shopping with me and help me figure out what looks good on me, then return home to give me a femme-in-her-50's makeup lesson (I don't wear makeup everyday and can do a basic subtle application just fine but don't know how to do my makeup when I want impact without going overboard), then hang with the boys/butches to get their honest feedback. Anyone want to meet me at Torrent in Annapolis tomorrow afternoon to help me pick something out?

I've only been in this community a few hours and already I feel that I've found My People.

LaneyDoll · 09-13-2012, 10:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

I'm going to have to rally all of you to do an Extreme Makeover: Femme Who's Allowed Herself to Get Frumpy edition!

Seriously, you have no idea how much I need and would LOVE to have a bunch of femme's to go shopping with me and help me figure out what looks good on me, then return home to give me a femme-in-her-50's makeup lesson (I don't wear makeup everyday and can do a basic subtle application just fine but don't know how to do my makeup when I want impact without going overboard), then hang with the boys/butches to get their honest feedback. Anyone want to meet me at Torrent in Annapolis tomorrow afternoon to help me pick something out?

I've only been in this community a few hours and already I feel that I've found My People.

This reply makes me happy. Good luck with this!!!

Dude · 09-13-2012, 10:58 PM

I could help with the shopping part
and even say "girl, I don't think so" if something is not quite right
(sometimes the girlfriends might lie to be "nice", not me, one look at my face
says it all)
then we could do lunch

and go to the salon

make up.. subtle eyeliner and pretty lashes , light on the brows and the rest of it and you'll look smashing

I think it's great you are coming out of a funk.

She likes you already , just as you are , so remember that too.

Toughy · 09-14-2012, 01:17 AM

what Dude said:

Quote:

make up.. subtle eyeliner and pretty lashes , light on the brows and the rest of it and you'll look smashing

SugarFemme · 09-14-2012, 01:32 AM

OMHO...Most importantly, YOU need to feel sexy about yourself. If you get that internal nasty, naughty, sensual feeling, you could rock a potato sack and be sexy. The sexy starts within. I am 51, and sometimes, when the planets are aligned, I'm feeling good about ME, I can have Tinkerbell sleep shorts and a cutupt-shirt like in Flashdance, there is NOOO stopping the sexy that exudes from every pore of my being.

Parker · 09-14-2012, 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Toughy

Personally, I am attracted to 'age appropriate' femmes...........meaning femmes who are within 15-20 years of my age. I like what age and gravity does to a femme.......just as I hope she likes what age and gravity have done to my body.

This. So much.

-----

Also - I love the 2 shirt ideas: wearing one of her button down shirts with stockings and garters - or an over sized jersey of her fave team which she can then keep.

lol, I apparently like those two ideas so much that I had a hard time typing the above sentence out - so many typos, I had to keep deleting and editing - if we were all face to face, I probably would have been stuttering! oy

Dont get me wrong, corsets and teddies are nice - but sometimes, the most "innocent" idea can work just as well.

pinkgeek · 09-15-2012, 09:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

I'm going to have to rally all of you to do an Extreme Makeover: Femme Who's Allowed Herself to Get Frumpy edition!

Seriously, you have no idea how much I need and would LOVE to have a bunch of femme's to go shopping with me and help me figure out what looks good on me, then return home to give me a femme-in-her-50's makeup lesson (I don't wear makeup everyday and can do a basic subtle application just fine but don't know how to do my makeup when I want impact without going overboard), then hang with the boys/butches to get their honest feedback. Anyone want to meet me at Torrent in Annapolis tomorrow afternoon to help me pick something out?

I've only been in this community a few hours and already I feel that I've found My People.

I'll be in DC again in early October - if you want to make the drive I'll shop with you!

Cheers!!

Rope · 10-02-2012, 02:03 PM

Hell if hy/she doesn't like the corset---fly out here where we have slut night for ALL AGES AND SIZES. What makes the corset is the confidence of the femme wearing it. As others have said, 'work it'.

The best surprise I got from a femme was from one that said she'd NEVER wear one---hot damn when she did.

*waving from San Francisco,

Rope--

Toughy · 10-02-2012, 06:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rope

Hell if hy/she doesn't like the corset---fly out here where we have slut night for ALL AGES AND SIZES. What makes the corset is the confidence of the femme wearing it. As others have said, 'work it'.

The best surprise I got from a femme was from one that said she'd NEVER wear one---hot damn when she did.

*waving from San Francisco,

Rope--

Hy is telling the truth............we will have a Slut Night..aren't we due one anyway???

in case folks don't know.......Slut Night was named by the femmes who come to B/F Socials gatherings......

10-02-2012, 02:03 PM	#19
Rope Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hy Relationship Status: polyamorous Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 304 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 79 Thanked 1,277 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 8577864	Hell if hy/she doesn't like the corset---fly out here where we have slut night for ALL AGES AND SIZES. What makes the corset is the confidence of the femme wearing it. As others have said, 'work it'. The best surprise I got from a femme was from one that said she'd NEVER wear one---hot damn when she did. *waving from San Francisco, Rope-- __________________ www.ButchFemmeSocials.com

09-13-2012, 08:42 PM	#1
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have been looking at pretty bras for the last hour? I'm supportive, like that... snort this one is at Torrid

09-13-2012, 09:24 PM	#3
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	Even if hy doesn't like corsets, I'm quite sure that hy will appreciate that you have made an effort to please hym.

09-14-2012, 08:35 AM	#7
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	"@Nadeest- According to Dance, her butch uses female pronouns. (My pet peeve.) " Oh! Now I know! Thank you for correcting me.

09-14-2012, 11:55 AM	#8
bcelly1894 Timed Out How Do You Identify?: sb Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: the earth Posts: 36 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32 Thanked 78 Times in 26 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hello Dance, Have a beautiful sexy weekend with your butch treat. After 8 years without sex. Im surprised that you didnt drive 100 miles to her each day butt naked wearing a lunchbox costume that opened up only to reveal your beautiful sexy size 16/18 self. I just joined this site and seeing all of the responces of support to your questions was fantastic and makes me like this site more and more. It also had me thinking about all of the ways that you could go about thanking your butch treat. All I know is that Im going to be waiting patiently to read how it all went for you this weekend.

09-15-2012, 03:22 PM	#10
Dance-with-me Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: earth Posts: 419 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 264 Thanked 1,926 Times in 378 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Have a few minutes to myself so thought I'd update. Stopped by Torrent on the way - Oh. My. Maude. If a lot more things had fit me right I would have descimmated my budget instead of just seriously damaging it!! I was disappointed to not find any of their teddies or bustiers to fit me right, but I did get a cute date outfit and some very nice/sexy bra and panty sets. I may see if she wants to go tomorrow to the local Lane Bryant (which she said carries all of their sexy intimates, unlike the LB store near me) and help me pick something out. I have to worry a bit about getting arrested if she comes into the dressing room with me...

09-13-2012, 09:33 PM	#11
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	"research" seriously , how funny are we? I have never seen anyone get a welcoming committee , quite like this , that I can remember

09-13-2012, 10:58 PM	#14
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I could help with the shopping part and even say "girl, I don't think so" if something is not quite right (sometimes the girlfriends might lie to be "nice", not me, one look at my face says it all) then we could do lunch and go to the salon make up.. subtle eyeliner and pretty lashes , light on the brows and the rest of it and you'll look smashing I think it's great you are coming out of a funk. She likes you already , just as you are , so remember that too.

09-14-2012, 01:32 AM	#16
SugarFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Fierce Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Singular Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Southwest Posts: 1,029 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 650 Thanked 4,458 Times in 854 Posts Rep Power*: 21474851	OMHO...Most importantly, YOU need to feel sexy about yourself. If you get that internal nasty, naughty, sensual feeling, you could rock a potato sack and be sexy. The sexy starts within. I am 51, and sometimes, when the planets are aligned, I'm feeling good about ME, I can have Tinkerbell sleep shorts and a cutupt-shirt like in Flashdance, there is NOOO stopping the sexy that exudes from every pore of my being.