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Old 10-04-2012, 10:09 AM   #1
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True story.....it was a first meeting with someone I had been talking to (via email/chat/text) and she happened to live in my city. Our first "meeting" was a lunch bar so it was pretty casual, and last minute I might add. Impulsive as I see it in hindsight, but I digress. She openly told me about her last relationship then proceeded to ask me how many women I had been in relationships with. I was a tad bashful but I said how many. She said, to me then, "you're a low mileage lesbian"

Ok, so now what? that was about 7 months ago, and the last time I spoke to her......

Should I make that my handle if I try another dating site?


She probably was just nervous and blurted it out in that way we blurt out stupid shit in stressful situations like first dates—but "low mileage lesbian" is creepy. You're not a vehicle, vessel or carnival ride and you don't have an odometer except maybe metaphorically.

I guess I'm saying No, I wouldn't make it my handle (were you kidding?), or maybe Yes, if it appeals to your sense of humor.

Or as I think about it more, maybe yes, you should use it as a handle if you want to present your low number of relationships out front and center because you think it will appeal to people.

(I don't personally consider it a plus, but it's not MY handle we're talking about...)
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She probably was just nervous and blurted it out in that way we blurt out stupid shit in stressful situations like first dates—but "low mileage lesbian" is creepy. You're not a vehicle, vessel or carnival ride and you don't have an odometer except maybe metaphorically.

I guess I'm saying No, I wouldn't make it my handle (were you kidding?), or maybe Yes, if it appeals to your sense of humor.

Or as I think about it more, maybe yes, you should use it as a handle if you want to present your low number of relationships out front and center because you think it will appeal to people.

(I don't personally consider it a plus, but it's not MY handle we're talking about...)
OMG, yes I was kidding,
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I got a great chuckle out of that "low mileage"? wtf does that mean exactly.....that is how i would have responded then i may have responded with its not the miles that counts its the "Ride" hahaha
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I was dating a fella (when i was a teenager) and he picked me up one day and brought along with him someone else he had decided to "pit myself and her against each other" when she and i exited the car, i had a chat with her, told her he was a serious waste of my time at this point and that she could have him cause he would do the same thing to her he had just done to me and I am not into playing these sort of games. She gave much thought to this and then decided she didn't want him either.....when he was close to dropping me off she told him what a jerk he was and that she would never be with him, when I got out of the car i looked at him and told him to "fuck off" and please don't call me anymore.....

As an adult I have experienced this same thing.....

I would stand proudly next to my sister's than play a silly childish (teenage) game with anyone.

Im not into the games and im not into being "one" of many notches etc...

Life is too short for all that.
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I got a great chuckle out of that "low mileage"? wtf does that mean exactly.....that is how i would have responded then i may have responded with its not the miles that counts its the "Ride" hahaha
If ONLY I were that quick with the comebacks......
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I am a California girl (now) and def have my woo woo side.

But I do not need to know THAT much about your soul on the first date.

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Late entry here on this old thread.

-Don't make me have to make the decisions of what to do or where to go.
-When on a double date I like when the butches walk protectively behind us femmes, in full veiw of us in our high femme club wear.
-When sitting together, boldly touching my knee while telling me how lovely I look in that cute outfit you asked me to wear.
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(Thanks for bumping this one!)

Hmmmm, I guess I'm like a lot of femmes.....I want to be treated with respect and kindness. I'm very old school, so I respond to all the little things like opening doors, holding my coat, pulling back my chair, etc. Flirt with me, if it's genuine. Be honest and be yourself, I want to get to know the real you.

Please DON'T: dance with someone else, flirt with someone else, look at other women, swat the waitresses' butts, or tease/make fun of me. Yes, these have all happened on actual dates. REALLY? So tacky.
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