When a Femme meets a Butch... dating advice!

[DapperButch]

You said she was on Facebook. What does her relationship status say (or whatever it is called on there)?

[Dance-with-me]

Originally Posted by Martina

If I had the time back I spent listening to these angsty convos, . . . . well, I'd have a lot more time. If you do ask her out, use the word "date."

LOL yes, my very best friend and I started with me asking her on a date that she didn't know was a date, and then freaked out when she realized that I considered it a date. We still laugh about it almost 20 years later - and I learned that lesson well.

Originally Posted by Fatale

I've always been a big advocate and embracer of the direct approach. I couldn't quite suss out when next you will see this woman. I think you said you are considering or actually planning on doing some volunteer work for an group in which she's quite active, yes?

Unfortunately not quite that - she runs the program that I am volunteering to help, but most of what I'll do will not bring me into face-to-face contact with her.

Regarding whether she IDs as butch, how vital is that to you? You like her, are attracted to her, is it of utmost importance because that dynamic, or the lack of it, is not a negotiable for you?

When I first re-entered the dating scene a few months ago I thought I would be ok with someone who was not butch, but I realize that I need that dynamic. I'm not a lipstick lesbian, I'm a femme who needs that butch/femme dance.

Originally Posted by DapperButch

You said she was on Facebook. What does her relationship status say (or whatever it is called on there)?

She has it locked down private, no information visible.