What attracts you to Ftms ......

[ruffryder]

Thank you for the following Vintage and Uniques and everybody else posting in regards to what you find attractive in FTMs!

Originally Posted by VintageFemme

Their courage, strength of heart & spirit, the will to be true to who they are in the face of much bigotry, adversity and misunderstanding. And physically for me, just their sheer hottiness. Mhmmm.

Originally Posted by Uniqueswtfemm

The honesty they share, the emotions they have about themselves, the energy they project.

Ranch house is a plus as well

Brute it is a great thing that many FTMs are aware where they come from and the steps it takes to get to a comfortable place within oneself knowing and feeling all they do with regards to feminism and what it is like to be a female in this world. You say Julie has played a major role in your alignment and how you feel in regards to the journey, and your Mom called you "son." I have to say many femmes in my life and friends have helped me along this journey as well. They have pointed out things to me about myself that made me realize who I am and who I am to become. This helps immensely in gaining one's confidence and moving along the journey to become a FTM and align ones body perhaps and spirit to match how one may feel.

Your post definitely was not a derail.. maybe on the current discussion happening here but most definitely is what the thread is all about, FTMs and the attraction of them. Thanks for your sentiments.

My question for FTMs (in regards to attraction) is :

Have people in your life helped you along that journey we make as FTMs in realizing, aligning, transforming, etc? ..

and for others:

Have you been able to help FTMs with their journey in realizing, aligning, transforming, and how has it affected or changed them or yourself?

For me, it's comments like the above, people that understand where we come from and how we feel, acceptance, and this thread in general that help someone such as myself move about comfortably in this life being who I am.

Originally Posted by BrutalDyke

Okay, got Ursula parked for the night, finally.


DMV, Julie pretty much hit the nail on the head with the use of the word shame, for me.

There were specific incidents, growing up as a female but feeling/knowing something just was not right with me, that caused the shame. It's not something I'll talk about out in the open but it's not something I will put away forever either because it is a part of the journey I've taken to get here. I gotta take the good with the bad. Lol.

I can honestly say that Julie has played a very very major role in me finally being totally okay with aligning my outside with my inside. I don't think she realizes that though. A lot of it comes from the religious upbringing and family that I come from. Yet they all adore Julie. Hell my own granny forced us to have a shot gun wedding at her house. My mom, in the past year or two, has started calling me, "her son". Most of the above has happened because they see that someone like me, a FTM, can be loved and accepted by another. That I'm not just some freak of nature or worse yet, someone who enjoys "dancing with the Devil" just to be the black sheep of the family.

Oh lordy, that was a derail if there ever was one but felt the need to share that. I guess what it boils down to is this....I am so damn grateful for threads like this because it's nice to be reminded every now and then why someone like myself could and would be appreciated, and not just by their lover/wife/spouse/partner or family.


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oyyyy not sure how June Cleaver and all her glory got in this thread, same as 50s, and kink. . I understand there are FTMs that enjoy 50s lifestyle, kink, etc.. but still, what attracks people to FTMs? June Cleaver probably is not a fan of FTMs.. Not all FTMs are into the 50s lifestyle or kink, but would this be something you (you general) need in an FTM to find them attractive? For me, that would just be a part of their lifestyle and not what defines them or maybe it does define them, hell I don't know. I guess that's another thread, maybe?

[ruffryder]

back to topic. who got's some answers?

Originally Posted by ruffryder

Thank you for the following Vintage and Uniques and everybody else posting in regards to what you find attractive in FTMs!





Brute it is a great thing that many FTMs are aware where they come from and the steps it takes to get to a comfortable place within oneself knowing and feeling all they do with regards to feminism and what it is like to be a female in this world. You say Julie has played a major role in your alignment and how you feel in regards to the journey, and your Mom called you "son." I have to say many femmes in my life and friends have helped me along this journey as well. They have pointed out things to me about myself that made me realize who I am and who I am to become. This helps immensely in gaining one's confidence and moving along the journey to become a FTM and align ones body perhaps and spirit to match how one may feel.

Your post definitely was not a derail.. maybe on the current discussion happening here but most definitely is what the thread is all about, FTMs and the attraction of them. Thanks for your sentiments.

My question for FTMs (in regards to attraction) is :

Have people in your life helped you along that journey we make as FTMs in realizing, aligning, transforming, etc? ..

and for others:

Have you been able to help FTMs with their journey in realizing, aligning, transforming, and how has it affected or changed them or yourself?

For me, it's comments here about what attracks people to FTMS, people that understand where we come from and how we feel, acceptance, and this thread in general that help someone such as myself move about comfortably in this life being who I am.

[Gemme]

Have you been able to help FTMs with their journey in realizing, aligning, transforming, and how has it affected or changed them or yourself?

I would like to think so, but you'd have to ask them.

*grin*

My first FTM I dated did not lead to the best situation but it was definitely a learning situation. He wanted a straight woman and to leave the glbt2q3i world far behind and to completely sever all ties with it. THAT won't happen with me. After much thought and many tears, we split. Not hatefully but not amicably either. I haven't remained in contact with him so I'm not sure how it's going for him and what, if any, influence I had on him....other than to make absolute sure that he's got a woman who is straight or is willing to become straight for him.

I've since dated more appropriate (for ME) FTMs that did not want/need/demand that from me and we've managed to part on much friendlier notes. Again, you'd have to ask them what influence, if any, I had on them and their process.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Have you been able to help FTMs with their journey in realizing, aligning, transforming, and how has it affected or changed them or yourself?


The only thing I feel I can do is be an ally. Their journey is theirs so I am supportive, open to be an ear and I do not let their path deter me from mine. I am not sure if that's helped them but I hope they feel I was/am supportive of them. I have helped a few friends get resources in their area if they ask

[pynkkameleon]

What attracts me to FTM's? I like many others am drawn to that masculine energy. It's what makes my belly do flip-flops and draws me in.

I cannot speak for all, but there is also dignity, a pride and yes even a dash of chivalry to each FTM that has ever graced my life. To me this is hot, hot, hot!

Not to downplay any of the struggles that we each have experienced and continue to go through as we move through life, becoming comfortable with who we are and seeking acceptance, but I think that we can all agree that FTM's and MTF individuals have to go many, many extra miles to find that acceptance, even from their own peers.

This is a bravery that I am simply in awe of. There is confidence, incredible strength, perseverance and dignity to any person that is willing to stand up and say "This is who I am". I am proud of any person, of any gender, that has that kind of bravery and self confidence and is willing to risk so much to live their lives being true to themselves.

So, what attracts me to FTM's? It is all of the above and so much more. They bring out the best in me, just as I hope that I do for them.

[stepfordfemme]

Fuzzy Treasure trails down his stomach.....

Scars. For the all the life long battles he's fought. They are reminders of his strength and courage.

Kisses First when the door opens. Then "Hi" Then more kissing.

That impish smirk across his face, especially when you know he's thinking something evil.

Stubble. Across your silky skin in contrast to his roughness. Yum.

The smell of him on your skin when you're home in your own bed. Bliss.

His voice. Rawr.

His bookshelf. A book on his nightstand next to his glasses. *swoon*

[VintageFemme]

Strength. Strength of mind, heart, soul and conviction. It takes a lot of courage to be who you really are and in some instances, to even know who you really are. This is the trait I find most desirable in FTM's.

And then the list of how incredibly sexy they can be just continues on from there...

Mhmmmm