When a Femme meets a Butch... dating advice!

Electrocell · 10-28-2012, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

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If you mean, don't get into a sexual or romantic relationship with someone who works where you do, then I completely agree -- I don't even like developing close friendships with co-workers because it just screws things up, and I would never date or get romantically or sexually involved with a coworker. But this is not a coworker.

And I wasn't asking for advise on fucking her, just trying to figure out how to "get this person alone for drinks, lunch, coffee, a walk down the street--[because otherwise I'm] not going to find out if they're single, interesting, crazy, date worthy, whatever" and yet since it's been probably 20 years since I've attempted to get someone alone for drinks, lunch, coffee, or a walk down the street, I was hoping for (and got from many others, thank you!!!) some advice on how to do this, considering that I don't know when I'm going to have any contact with her again.

You say that you are e-mailing her/hym right now why not slip in something like ----you wouldn't know any good butches out there looking for a good femme in one of the e-mails to see what kind of reaction you get. Not a face to face and if she says no then you got your answer but who knows it may lead to what you are looking for.

Dance-with-me · 10-28-2012, 10:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Electrocell

You say that you are e-mailing her/hym right now why not slip in something like ----you wouldn't know any good butches out there looking for a good femme in one of the e-mails to see what kind of reaction you get. Not a face to face and if she says no then you got your answer but who knows it may lead to what you are looking for.

Well, I'm trying to slip in little personal stuff but I just couldn't realistically make the jump to asking that particularly question: it's just too personal and we haven't yet really established that personal questions are ok.

Electrocell · 10-28-2012, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

Well, I'm trying to slip in little personal stuff but I just couldn't realistically make the jump to asking that particularly question: it's just too personal and we haven't yet really established that personal questions are ok.

Only time will tell then better not to rush into anything anyway. Do you know for a fact she is even gay? Try wearing earrings or necklace that shows you are see if that catches her attention.

Dance-with-me · 10-28-2012, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Electrocell

Only time will tell then better not to rush into anything anyway. Do you know for a fact she is even gay? Try wearing earrings or necklace that shows you are see if that catches her attention.

I did manage to fit that into the conversation, when she asked if I had any dogs, I replied yes, but when my ex closes on her house next month SHE was going to be taking them all because the pugs are HERS and HER granddaughter is bonded with the lab. So... yeah, she knows about me. So the next move is hers, I guess. Or I have to just be patient and wait for another opportunity to talk in person, whenever that might be.

Electrocell · 10-28-2012, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

I did manage to fit that into the conversation, when she asked if I had any dogs, I replied yes, but when my ex closes on her house next month SHE was going to be taking them all because the pugs are HERS and HER granddaughter is bonded with the lab. So... yeah, she knows about me. So the next move is hers, I guess. Or I have to just be patient and wait for another opportunity to talk in person, whenever that might be.

Maybe she has already made her move lol think about it.Did she mention anything about her animals?