Changing last names

[tantalizingfemme]

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

I think if name taking was equal across the board, and not very o e sided, I'd say that its not deferring. but because it is very lop sided... cmon, it may not be you, but a good proportion of people are deferring to a feminine does the giving up and taking of the masculine in ord to "be a family".

I guess the first that I think when I read this is so what? What if they choose to do that?