Changing last names

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by *Anya*

*My opinion* and I always speak from my own perceptions and feelings.

There also feels to me, an underlying tacit vibe that one is not a real feminist if one wants to change their name to their partner's last name.

Fuck that.

No one has brainwashed me.

No one has socialized me to believe that to accomplish a multitude of things, I had to be partnered in society <<< paraphrasing of course.

I will change my name when I want to, because I want to.

As my girl-friend would be more than happy to tell you (if she visited the planet); I don't do anything I don't want to do.

My family name is a symbol of a lifetime of abuse.

My married name is a symbol of same.

This is not some abstract concept.

This is my real life. If we marry: I am changing my name to hers. Hell, I am considering doing it regardless.

Because I can. Because I want to.

I am a feminist in love.

Anya,

I hope by "you," you mean "you plural," and you're not speaking directly to me—because I never intended or implied or meant that a person isn't a "real feminist" if they change their name to their partner's.

Just clarifying, and hope we're cool.

Scout

[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by IslandScout

Anya,

I hope by "you," you mean "you plural," and you're not speaking directly to me—because I never intended or implied or meant that a person isn't a "real feminist" if they change their name to their partner's.

Just clarifying, and hope we're cool.

Scout

Hi Scout,

Of course not.

I re-read my post a couple of times and where I did use you, I basically meant the whole of the planet, not you in particular.

I also quoted you because of the use of the tacit vibe phrase.

I jumped off of your post because it fit and resonated with me.

Thanks for clarifying and we are always cool.

I love to read your articulate and well-written posts.