Femme Led Relationships and Trans/Butch/Femme Bottoms

[Massive]

Originally Posted by weatherboi

Hi Massive and thank you for your participation.
I really respect that your space is so well rounded and that you so fiercely understand the struggle a trans/butch submissive/slave/bottom and their Femme Tops/Daddys encounter in this dynamic. When you were submitting/bottoming did you ever experience another butch (not in BDSM) disrespect your Ms? As a bottom have you ever noticed how there seems to be forming a pattern of submissives using a victim stance to leave/dismiss a relationship?

Thank you, and yes, I have to admit to having experienced that on both counts, both being dismissed and disrespected towards myself and my Ms, and to our faces too, and it came from people who had no understanding of the dynamic at all, butches who saw it as their role to be 'the man' (which is something I've always loathed, if they want that kind of role, surely we've surpassed that kind of blinkered approach to life in general) who couldn't see or were apparently disgusted by seeing me submitting to a femme, and yes I have seen submissives using the victim stance as an excuse and being extremely dismissive of a relationship which is exactly the same as their own, only it's a butch being submissive and not a femme, I don't like the hypocriticalness of that, it's pained me at times to see that kind of dismissiveness from another submissive, when surely it would be better for everyone to accept and draw strength from one anothers experiences and lives and not belittling others relationships.
I stand firm by my belief that if we are to get anywhere as a community, both in our own countries and globally, we need to work together and not attack one another.
We're never going to get equality if we've not got equality amongst ourselves ...