The Mythical *Pass* for Differently-Abled People

[Plato]

Originally Posted by adorable

We ALL have something that isn't right.... Would people call him abusive? Yep and he sure can be. I give him a pass and deal with him knowing full well what that means. He cannot change.

I have someone who works for me that is developmentally disabled and has the mental capacity of a 13 year old girl. I give her passes all day long. She is 25 years old. She cannot change.

Then there is expecting something that someone doesn't have the capacity to give. Sometimes, no matter how tough we are - we all need a pass.

Compassion for the limits of someone else is NOT giving a pass. Making excuses for why folks cannot change is bs.

I was told that I would die or be in prison forever because addicts don't change.
I was told that I wouldn't walk again due to the lack of oxygen and 6 months of hospitalization.

WRONG on both counts and shame on those who were so willing to write me off.

If such perceptions are kept low and comfortable, there isn't a reason to change. Change is difficult and time consuming. The goals may never be met, but without big dreams there can be no big rewards. The motivation TO CHANGE can only be achieved when the consequences for staying the same are larger than the rewards for changing.