Open Letter: Dear Femme

[NJFemmie]

Originally Posted by Arwen

But. Is this culture? Is it socialization? Is it male-centric?

Or is it female-phobic on some level?

Perhaps all of the above.

Aren't we all conditioned to respond this way, and yes, more specifically towards women?

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by NJFemmie

Perhaps all of the above.

Aren't we all conditioned to respond this way, and yes, more specifically towards women?

Yes. When females are born, we are sprinkled with tenderizer so it will be easier to tear one another apart.

If only women could turn all of this negative shit inside out and blast the evil forces in the world with it, we'd be on the fast track to world peace.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by NJFemmie

It's not just women though.

A woman walks into a store wearing sweats. The salesman looks her up and down with displeasure. Points her in a direction she had no interest in going. She probably made more money in six months than he did in one year - yet - he made assumptions about her.

Would this salesman respond the same way if a man walked in wearing sweats? Probably not.

It depends upon the salesman. If he was a car salesman, yes. If he was a high end retail salesman, then he'd most likely treat them equally.

I haven't met anyone with the capability to treat everyone they meet the same. While some try, it's just not in our nature. It is, however, in a woman's nature to internalize things and think and think and think about them until somehow the smallest things are pronounced. Why is that?

[apretty]

/off topic

regardless of what he or she is selling, a quality salesperson is interested in making the sale and it wouldn't matter what the customer is wearing. i think experiences vary widely, here. most times i chalk up bad service to inexperience or an unskilled, inept salesperson --not to who i am/what i intend to buy, or not.

Originally Posted by Gemme

It depends upon the salesman. If he was a car salesman, yes. If he was a high end retail salesman, then he'd most likely treat them equally.

I haven't met anyone with the capability to treat everyone they meet the same. While some try, it's just not in our nature. It is, however, in a woman's nature to internalize things and think and think and think about them until somehow the smallest things are pronounced. Why is that?

/on topic:

cuz we're taught from day one to subjugate ourselves.

[blush]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I haven't met anyone with the capability to treat everyone they meet the same. While some try, it's just not in our nature. It is, however, in a woman's nature to internalize things and think and think and think about them until somehow the smallest things are pronounced. Why is that?

It's the Cinderalla complex. Or part of it. We are taught that there is only ONE beautiful woman in any given room. If that's "not us," then it must be something flawed in ourselves.

I don't think it's in "our nature," though. I think it's Disney-based.