only another butch would understand

[BullDog]

People appear to be seriously confused about what I have said.
I have never said that butch femme space was all woman or female space nor have I advocated it.
I have never said male identified people should not be welcome and I too have close male id butch and trans friends, and consider male id people as part of my community as well.
I have never been afraid of being marginalized- as a female identified butch or anything else.
I have never been afraid to speak up about things that I felt were important and I am not going to stop speaking up wherever I happen to participate.

Misogyny doesn't appear to be going away anytime soon. EVERYONE is responsible for unmasking, uprooting and getting rid of it. If discussions about misogyny are not welcome here just let me know. I have never blamed male identified people for all misogyny, and I am thoroughly sick and tired of my words being characterized that way.

Peace to All.

P.S. Evolveme, I agree with you- Kumbabya is not the answer. Doesn't mean we shouldn't be respectful of one another and wish for us all to get along peacefully, but the tough conversations need to be had in order to get anywhere.

I am severely frustrated because I have no idea why people are not understanding what I write. I am a professional writer- I fucking get paid for it. I write thousands of words every day and people understand what I write. Otherwise I wouldn't get paid for it. Actually Toughy and Greyson seemed to understand just fine.

Sorry if this is overly personal. I am severely frustrated.

[bonne-maman]

Originally Posted by BullDog

Misogyny doesn't appear to be going away anytime soon. EVERYONE is responsible for unmasking, uprooting and getting rid of it. If discussions about misogyny are not welcome here just let me know. I have never blamed male identified people for all misogyny, and I am thoroughly sick and tired of my words being characterized that way.

We are all responsible, all the time, for working on our own internalized isms. Misogyny, racism, classism, agism, disabism, all of it, is embedded in all of us. How deeply the various isms are held in us, and how we must approach unlearning them, is impacted by who we are. Are we male-identified, female-identified, male, female, white, African-American, old, young, able, otherly-abled? Whatever combination is me, impacts how I approach the isms within me that I must unlearn. I hear in this thread the voices of those who are masculine people who have strong values, strong ethics, strong morals. I read these voices on a day I have spent as a female adult person trying mightily to help a female young person hold on to a bare thread of sanity. Sanity that has been ripped from her by male people who have beaten, raped, and abused her, and female people who have neglected to protect her. This is the far extreme of the misogyny that is spoken of here, that we must all unlearn. We are all responsible, every day, for unlearning how privilege of various sorts allows us to walk the world safer than others, in order to make the world safer for others.

[BullDog]

Originally Posted by bonne-maman

We are all responsible, all the time, for working on our own internalized isms. Misogyny, racism, classism, agism, disabism, all of it, is embedded in all of us. How deeply the various isms are held in us, and how we must approach unlearning them, is impacted by who we are. Are we male-identified, female-identified, male, female, white, African-American, old, young, able, otherly-abled? Whatever combination is me, impacts how I approach the isms within me that I must unlearn. I hear in this thread the voices of those who are masculine people who have strong values, strong ethics, strong morals. I read these voices on a day I have spent as a female adult person trying mightily to help a female young person hold on to a bare thread of sanity. Sanity that has been ripped from her by male people who have beaten, raped, and abused her, and female people who have neglected to protect her. This is the far extreme of the misogyny that is spoken of here, that we must all unlearn. We are all responsible, every day, for unlearning how privilege of various sorts allows us to walk the world safer than others, in order to make the world safer for others.

Thank you for your post. I agree with all my heart. Peace to the young woman that you helped. And thank you for being there.