only another butch would understand - Page 10

Milly · 11-20-2009, 03:57 PM

Jet, only a femme that is in need of making her own self appear more important to herself, would say such things to a butch. Any woman, worth her salt, would never say such cruelties to someone she supposedly loves. For me to say these things to my spouse, would mean that I am less of a human for being with someone I apparently think so little of. I'm sorry for any hurtful words that a femme has said to you. I can imagine how very hurtful this would be for you or any other buth.

Cyclopea · 11-20-2009, 09:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

Ditto here.

And as such, pronouns are an issue for me because I havent started my transition. Female pronouns make me cringe...it's just how I am. but I know i have to live with it. What's worse is how many people in the queer community don't get it and don't repect my ID. You would think that others in this community would view me with openness and understanding.

Not true.

I know exactly how you feel as a butch when your gender is not respected. Male pronouns make me cringe. But I don't intend to live with it, and I don't think you should live with wrong pronouns either. We just need to keep correcting people. I also concur that one would hope that the queer community would be most conscious of diversity- we don't expect to be invalidated in our own community. We just need to keep educating people. Most of them probably mean well...
As for a girlfriend or partner that tries to inflict hurt through intentional disrespect- that's just nasty and I'm sorry that happened to you.

Diva · 11-20-2009, 10:29 PM

Because I know that sometimes, some wear their feelings on their sleeves about so many things, if there is any confusion on my part about which pronoun one prefers, I ask in a matter~of~fact way. I just want to know so that I will avoid any hurt feelings.

It doesn't make me cringe to make another person more comfortable with their identity.

kassykit · 11-24-2009, 06:06 AM

I try to not use pronouns, i use names, reason being is unless i really really know you i have a horrid memory!

and at least with chats and forums...........every time you post your name is RIGHT there for me!!!

am sorry if i slipped up at any time and offended!

Just don't blow up at me say

"hey kass" and correct me nicely

-sends warm fuzzy hugs for those that want them and stuffs-

MainelyButch · 12-01-2009, 10:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cyclopea

I know exactly how you feel as a butch when your gender is not respected. Male pronouns make me cringe. But I don't intend to live with it, and I don't think you should live with wrong pronouns either. We just need to keep correcting people. I also concur that one would hope that the queer community would be most conscious of diversity- we don't expect to be invalidated in our own community. We just need to keep educating people. Most of them probably mean well...
As for a girlfriend or partner that tries to inflict hurt through intentional disrespect- that's just nasty and I'm sorry that happened to you.

I'm with you on the "male pronouns make me cringe" as I want to be recognized as a woman still, even though I am very butch. I have learned so much from these forums (and other BF site forums) about the male id'd butch, and I respect that/them very much, yet I still want to personally be recognized as a strong butch woman, myself. It's been eye opening for me, living in small town Maine for sure. And the oft-times "invalidation within our own community", just pisses me off to no end. Why is it that us identifying ourselves as "butch" or "femme" is so threatening to some in our own community? I just can't understand this, you would think that there would be more support and acceptance within such a diverse community to start with, especially with the historical significance of the butch-femme dynamic.

Enjoying these forums, and looking forward to more topics and ideas. Hope everyone is enjoying the holiday season....to whatever degree you celebrate.

Converse · 12-03-2009, 11:24 PM

On several sites over the last few days I have been reading threads that go beyond encouraging discussion/debate and instead the OP appears to be leading the dialogue in what feels to me like a propaganda exercise- perhaps my perception is slightly biased because the topics concern judgment & criticism/disapproval/dislike of so many things that are important to me including: Old School; the use of Hy/Hym pronouns and everything to do with male identified Butches; High Femmes; and the D/g and D/s dynamics. Other than the contributors, the other commonality that these threads share is the constant use of the words “Misogyny” and “Feminism”.

Probably I would not be so concerned if these had been the usual lesbian sites, as ridicule and condemnation is something, being a Butch, that I have experienced from “our sisters” in varying degrees since the 1970’s. I have had those that I fought alongside with; turn on me, when political dialogue drew many to conclude that my “presentation” represented everything that they were against. So in reading these threads I was not at first overly concerned, and simply put it down to it being part of the cyclical phase, history repeating itself etc, until it struck me – this time I’m reading/listening to the same “ridicule and condemnation” on sites with Butch-Femme in their title.

I never believed that in a community supposedly forged by those who identified with Butch-Femme and all of its nuances, that I would have to explain that being Butch wasn’t a desperate attempt to become male, or that anything in being who I was or my way of conducting myself had anything to do with emulating male behavior, nor would I imagine that a High Femme would have to feel the need to justify her want to dress/act in a certain way because it ran contrary to some others perception of what claiming womanhood should look like, or a person identifying as a babygirl or a submissive needing to explain that this is a choice only able to be embraced because of their strength and has absolutely nothing to do with any weakness. I have even read posts that have questioned the intelligence of people when their lifestyle/persona/desires do not fit the OP’s “should list”.

I have written elsewhere that it would be naïve to believe that we could “be”- without ever being judged by some, but what is happening when the very essence of who we are is being judged by those, who by their membership of this community, at the very least claim to support if not understand? Has the membership of these sites changed so much that to assume support is no longer valid?

Jet · 12-03-2009, 11:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Milly

Jet, only a femme that is in need of making her own self appear more important to herself, would say such things to a butch. Any woman, worth her salt, would never say such cruelties to someone she supposedly loves. For me to say these things to my spouse, would mean that I am less of a human for being with someone I apparently think so little of. I'm sorry for any hurtful words that a femme has said to you. I can imagine how very hurtful this would be for you or any other buth.

Milly, thank you for posting this. I was surprised when I saw this; I haven't been in this thread for some time. Christmas is nearing—for me— alone. You know, it wasn't the words...it was the betrayal. All I ever wanted was to love and be loved. It just....you know...wasn't meant to be. Thank you again, I wish you a great holiday.

Jet · 12-04-2009, 12:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cyclopea

I know exactly how you feel as a butch when your gender is not respected. Male pronouns make me cringe. But I don't intend to live with it, and I don't think you should live with wrong pronouns either. We just need to keep correcting people. I also concur that one would hope that the queer community would be most conscious of diversity- we don't expect to be invalidated in our own community. We just need to keep educating people. Most of them probably mean well...
As for a girlfriend or partner that tries to inflict hurt through intentional disrespect- that's just nasty and I'm sorry that happened to you.

I live in the deep south where pronouns are a part of respect, Every sentence begins with ..."Miss..." I can't change things—not even one person at a time; this is about tradition—hundreds of years, tradition. I think what pains me the most, is that I have danced around this issue for the better part of my life. I wanted to leave the midwest (which is nothing short of a tight perm) and come to an international city, thinking it would embrace diversity; it doesn't, it's just as provincial as LA; people were not "gender-ID" sensitive or versed there either.

Some things...

If I were to date again (which isn't plausible for me) I would do certain things, like make reservations and tell the restaurant that I want my wait staff to be gender-ID sensitive, and that protocol with me is to use masculine pronouns. Just an example of changing things in certain settings or situations.

But...

what really blows my mind is how discriminating folks are in our own community. My personal take is that I don't question people on who they are. It's not for me to understand, it's for me to respect another person, period.

I was "dis-invited" to 4th of July this year outing by a gay man who couldn't deal with the pronoun thing and didn't want me around because his sister and mother were going to be there. He was afraid I would embarrass them. I wasn't even given a chance to say that I would have been gracious towards them.

I'm done y'all. I live for myself—I don't get in anyone's way. I say very little.

Y'all have a wonderful holiday.

BullDog · 12-17-2009, 09:36 AM

I am out of state at the moment and very shaggy. I miss my barber Vinnie. My customary flat top may be out. I might have to go for the quick buzz as I step out into the unknown, lol.

Jet · 12-17-2009, 09:52 AM

I'm letting mine grow out shoulder length...if I can take the stages. I don't do short hair

BullDog · 12-17-2009, 09:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

I'm letting mine grow out shoulder length...if I can take the stages. I don't do short hair

Well Jet, you are such a stylin gent. I think you hair will look good at any length.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-17-2009, 01:48 PM

I have learned rejection very well. And in doing so, I live for myself. When others belittle me because of my haircut, my weight, my disabilities, or whatever, I think it is on them. Something must have happened to them to have to say that to me to be so mean and nasty. I am very sensitive to others. I sure would love to be loved by each and everyone. I have no clue as to what unconditional love is. One day I will. And like Jet, it is just a matter of living day to day.

I have been dis-invited to parties too. I recently made a huge error in judgement. I sent pictures out to several people. I thought I could trust and love them. Instead, they used the pictures I sent them as a means of criticisms and jokes. So, I learned my lesson. Not everyone is who they say they are online. Sad but true. And the debates over my name/gender change...I had no idea it was really anyone's business but my own. Well, it just shows me about peace, love, and respect. I think everyone needs to have unconditional love. No matter what. That is why I pray for people all the time. It is my hope that we won't have this ugliness much more. I want everyone to just love each other. That's all.

Jet, like you, I let anyone just say whatever. I try to listen and understand. And then they get mad at me for that. I am not too sure of why. I am no where near a threat to anyone. I am a very simple guy. But like you, I have learned the art of walking away. Sometimes it is the best move for me.

Peace.

Jet · 12-17-2009, 02:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BullDog

Well Jet, you are such a stylin gent. I think you hair will look good at any length.

Well thank you very kindly Bully. It's nice of you to say.

Now Andrew,

Contrary to popular belief, I was once a kind, gentle and loving man. I say man because my insides have always been wired that way. I was the kind of guy who would go to war for a woman as silly and corny as it sounds. But that was my ethic and my heart.

Then something happened that changed my life. Something I didn't deserve just like all the things you don't deserve. Tell 'em to kiss your ass, Andrew. What is a man really? His values? His love for others? His kindness? Courage? Ethics? All wrapped up in a natural masculinity? The waters of a man run deep don't they? What brings me the most sorrow is the bitter asshole I've become because of loss and pain and betrayal. Well, I'm coming back... slowly but surely and it takes everything in my being and my fiber to remember and reclaim most of the person I was, now older and seasoned and hewn like a rock. And maybe someday, I'll love deeply again. I don't know any other way to love actually. When I love, the person I love will have everything I can give. But this deep, rich love starts within yourself, as something solid and strong and sure, so much so that nothing and no one and sway you. I wish you the best Andrew.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-17-2009, 03:02 PM

Jet,

It is amazing to me how vicious people are today. I am not sure of what happened. My best friend was my late Grandfather. He taught me everything from smoking cigars, how to throw a curve ball, driving his pickup, to growing vegetables, fishing, hunting, to having faith, and drinking beer. He never told me about how horrible some people are. But then again, he was a man who had a 1st grade education, and quit school to work to help support his family during the depression. He worked on a farm. It was a matter of survival.

My Grandfather had a saying that is close to yours. He would say that still waters run deep. How true he was about that.

Peace to you my brother,
Andrew

BullDog · 12-17-2009, 04:52 PM

You're welcome Jet. I really enjoy your pictures. You are very artistic and have a great sense of style.

Andrew, I am sorry to hear about your bad experiences. It does suck. I have had a few barbershops give me the cold shoulder. I am visiting Central PA from Portland, OR. I wasn't sure how people would take me, but so far everyone has been really nice to me. Today went great. I just went to some random barbershop today and got a great barber- Roy- who is definitely old school barber and gave me a great flat top.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-17-2009, 07:04 PM

Bulldog,

I have been going to the same barbar shop for 12 years now. If they closed tomorrow, I wouldn't know where to go. I think alot of guys nowadays go to Hair Cutteries, Happy Cuts, and the like.

Your hair style does not define who you are, or what is inside you. That is your soul. That is why I was quite taken back when I saw what was stated. I have short hair, and it is very fine, and poker straight. I wonder what the said poster would have said to the guy who was getting a perm in the chair next to mine. It makes one wonder.

Jet is a good man. I have known him for a number of years. He has been such a wonderful support system of mine.

Peace,
Andrew

Jet · 12-17-2009, 07:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Bulldog,

I have been going to the same barbar shop for 12 years now. If they closed tomorrow, I wouldn't know where to go. I think alot of guys nowadays go to Hair Cutteries, Happy Cuts, and the like.

Your hair style does not define who you are, or what is inside you. That is your soul. That is why I was quite taken back when I saw what was stated. I have short hair, and it is very fine, and poker straight. I wonder what the said poster would have said to the guy who was getting a perm in the chair next to mine. It makes one wonder.

Jet is a good man. I have known him for a number of years. He has been such a wonderful support system of mine.

Peace,
Andrew

You're very kind Andrew. Take care little bro...

WILDCAT · 12-17-2009, 07:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BullDog

You're welcome Jet. I really enjoy your pictures. You are very artistic and have a great sense of style.

Andrew, I am sorry to hear about your bad experiences. It does suck. I have had a few barbershops give me the cold shoulder. I am visiting Central PA from Portland, OR. I wasn't sure how people would take me, but so far everyone has been really nice to me. Today went great. I just went to some random barbershop today and got a great barber- Roy- who is definitely old school barber and gave me a great flat top.

Yeah, you'd better watch out when you're talking "PA" Bull.

It's called the "KEYSTONE STATE" for a reason!! WINK, WINK!!! Hell, you could go to the local barber right here in my home town and get the cut you wanted. You would "think" she is a dyke first off, and she would definitely then "crew ya" - while the guys all considered you "just one of the boys"!

You'd just have to watch out for your ears though, (depending on how much the barber lady had to drink that day already). Blood may have been spilled on those floors throughout the years - but ALL IN GOOD SPIRITED FUN! It's a tradition of sorts - going back to the old days of "Sherm the barber"... except he would cut your ears watching women going up and down the street. He had his stash though, the infamous "backroom". (Everyone had a stash in the backroom in those days. Even the guy who ran the teen place with the soda fountain, juke box... heck, even OUR OWN RUN TEEN PLACE had the backroom stash!) lol

Ahhhhhhh, yearning for the days of youth, it appears today!

WILD

Jet · 02-11-2010, 07:14 PM

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLcVhPrZFPI"]YouTube- Lonesome Polecat Seven Brides For Seven Brothers OST[/ame]

I’m a lonesome polecat
Lonesome sad and blue
‘Cause I ain’t got no feminine polecat
Vowing to be true.

I’m a mean old houndog
Baying at the moon
‘Cause I ain’t got no lady friend houndog
Here to hear my tune.

Ooh ooh
Can’t make no vows --
To a herd of cows.

I’m a lonesome polecat
Lonesome sad and blue
‘Cause I ain’t got no feminine polecat
Vowing to be true.

Ooh ooh
Can’t shoot no breeze --
To a bunch of trees.

Galahad · 02-17-2010, 10:30 PM

http://www.xtra.ca/public/National/a...%20Coyote.aspx

I enjoy Ivan Coyote's articles on xtra . com, and this new one about "getting over the ex butch style" was no exception. Anyone else have any sure fire ways for getting over her and getting back out there? Any stories to tell?

11-24-2009, 06:06 AM	#184
kassykit Member How Do You Identify?: Just me Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: TN Posts: 160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 115 Thanked 135 Times in 54 Posts Rep Power: 1725536	I try to not use pronouns, i use names, reason being is unless i really really know you i have a horrid memory! and at least with chats and forums...........every time you post your name is RIGHT there for me!!! am sorry if i slipped up at any time and offended! Just don't blow up at me say "hey kass" and correct me nicely -sends warm fuzzy hugs for those that want them and stuffs- __________________ =kassy= r/t Mishy =Love shared is love doubled.... pain shared is pain cut in half..........share your life with me, and i'll share mine with you...

12-03-2009, 11:24 PM	#186
Converse Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hy Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Vancouver Posts: 147 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 323 Thanked 685 Times in 105 Posts Rep Power: 2551406	On several sites over the last few days I have been reading threads that go beyond encouraging discussion/debate and instead the OP appears to be leading the dialogue in what feels to me like a propaganda exercise- perhaps my perception is slightly biased because the topics concern judgment & criticism/disapproval/dislike of so many things that are important to me including: Old School; the use of Hy/Hym pronouns and everything to do with male identified Butches; High Femmes; and the D/g and D/s dynamics. Other than the contributors, the other commonality that these threads share is the constant use of the words “Misogyny” and “Feminism”. Probably I would not be so concerned if these had been the usual lesbian sites, as ridicule and condemnation is something, being a Butch, that I have experienced from “our sisters” in varying degrees since the 1970’s. I have had those that I fought alongside with; turn on me, when political dialogue drew many to conclude that my “presentation” represented everything that they were against. So in reading these threads I was not at first overly concerned, and simply put it down to it being part of the cyclical phase, history repeating itself etc, until it struck me – this time I’m reading/listening to the same “ridicule and condemnation” on sites with Butch-Femme in their title. I never believed that in a community supposedly forged by those who identified with Butch-Femme and all of its nuances, that I would have to explain that being Butch wasn’t a desperate attempt to become male, or that anything in being who I was or my way of conducting myself had anything to do with emulating male behavior, nor would I imagine that a High Femme would have to feel the need to justify her want to dress/act in a certain way because it ran contrary to some others perception of what claiming womanhood should look like, or a person identifying as a babygirl or a submissive needing to explain that this is a choice only able to be embraced because of their strength and has absolutely nothing to do with any weakness. I have even read posts that have questioned the intelligence of people when their lifestyle/persona/desires do not fit the OP’s “should list”. I have written elsewhere that it would be naïve to believe that we could “be”- without ever being judged by some, but what is happening when the very essence of who we are is being judged by those, who by their membership of this community, at the very least claim to support if not understand? Has the membership of these sites changed so much that to assume support is no longer valid? __________________ I don't act this way to change the world. I act this way so that the goddamn world won't change me! -Desert Hearts

12-17-2009, 09:36 AM	#189
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,665 Times in 4,464 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I am out of state at the moment and very shaggy. I miss my barber Vinnie. My customary flat top may be out. I might have to go for the quick buzz as I step out into the unknown, lol. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

12-17-2009, 01:48 PM	#192
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	I have learned rejection very well. And in doing so, I live for myself. When others belittle me because of my haircut, my weight, my disabilities, or whatever, I think it is on them. Something must have happened to them to have to say that to me to be so mean and nasty. I am very sensitive to others. I sure would love to be loved by each and everyone. I have no clue as to what unconditional love is. One day I will. And like Jet, it is just a matter of living day to day. I have been dis-invited to parties too. I recently made a huge error in judgement. I sent pictures out to several people. I thought I could trust and love them. Instead, they used the pictures I sent them as a means of criticisms and jokes. So, I learned my lesson. Not everyone is who they say they are online. Sad but true. And the debates over my name/gender change...I had no idea it was really anyone's business but my own. Well, it just shows me about peace, love, and respect. I think everyone needs to have unconditional love. No matter what. That is why I pray for people all the time. It is my hope that we won't have this ugliness much more. I want everyone to just love each other. That's all. Jet, like you, I let anyone just say whatever. I try to listen and understand. And then they get mad at me for that. I am not too sure of why. I am no where near a threat to anyone. I am a very simple guy. But like you, I have learned the art of walking away. Sometimes it is the best move for me. Peace. Last edited by Andrew, Jr.; 12-17-2009 at 02:05 PM. Reason: spelling errors

12-17-2009, 04:52 PM	#195
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,665 Times in 4,464 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	You're welcome Jet. I really enjoy your pictures. You are very artistic and have a great sense of style. Andrew, I am sorry to hear about your bad experiences. It does suck. I have had a few barbershops give me the cold shoulder. I am visiting Central PA from Portland, OR. I wasn't sure how people would take me, but so far everyone has been really nice to me. Today went great. I just went to some random barbershop today and got a great barber- Roy- who is definitely old school barber and gave me a great flat top. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

11-20-2009, 03:57 PM	#181
Milly Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: USA Posts: 19 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 8 Times in 2 Posts Rep Power: 16	Jet, only a femme that is in need of making her own self appear more important to herself, would say such things to a butch. Any woman, worth her salt, would never say such cruelties to someone she supposedly loves. For me to say these things to my spouse, would mean that I am less of a human for being with someone I apparently think so little of. I'm sorry for any hurtful words that a femme has said to you. I can imagine how very hurtful this would be for you or any other buth.

11-20-2009, 10:29 PM	#183
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,174 Times in 5,239 Posts Rep Power: 0	Because I know that sometimes, some wear their feelings on their sleeves about so many things, if there is any confusion on my part about which pronoun one prefers, I ask in a matter~of~fact way. I just want to know so that I will avoid any hurt feelings. It doesn't make me cringe to make another person more comfortable with their identity.

12-17-2009, 09:52 AM	#190
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm letting mine grow out shoulder length...if I can take the stages. I don't do short hair

12-17-2009, 03:02 PM	#194
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Jet, It is amazing to me how vicious people are today. I am not sure of what happened. My best friend was my late Grandfather. He taught me everything from smoking cigars, how to throw a curve ball, driving his pickup, to growing vegetables, fishing, hunting, to having faith, and drinking beer. He never told me about how horrible some people are. But then again, he was a man who had a 1st grade education, and quit school to work to help support his family during the depression. He worked on a farm. It was a matter of survival. My Grandfather had a saying that is close to yours. He would say that still waters run deep. How true he was about that. Peace to you my brother, Andrew

12-17-2009, 07:04 PM	#196
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Bulldog, I have been going to the same barbar shop for 12 years now. If they closed tomorrow, I wouldn't know where to go. I think alot of guys nowadays go to Hair Cutteries, Happy Cuts, and the like. Your hair style does not define who you are, or what is inside you. That is your soul. That is why I was quite taken back when I saw what was stated. I have short hair, and it is very fine, and poker straight. I wonder what the said poster would have said to the guy who was getting a perm in the chair next to mine. It makes one wonder. Jet is a good man. I have known him for a number of years. He has been such a wonderful support system of mine. Peace, Andrew

02-11-2010, 07:14 PM	#199
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm a lonesome polecat [ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLcVhPrZFPI"]YouTube- Lonesome Polecat Seven Brides For Seven Brothers OST[/ame] I’m a lonesome polecat Lonesome sad and blue ‘Cause I ain’t got no feminine polecat Vowing to be true. I’m a mean old houndog Baying at the moon ‘Cause I ain’t got no lady friend houndog Here to hear my tune. Ooh ooh Can’t make no vows -- To a herd of cows. I’m a lonesome polecat Lonesome sad and blue ‘Cause I ain’t got no feminine polecat Vowing to be true. Ooh ooh Can’t shoot no breeze -- To a bunch of trees.

02-17-2010, 10:30 PM	#200
Galahad Member How Do You Identify?: do I have to? Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: I.E. Southern California Posts: 425 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,300 Thanked 339 Times in 151 Posts Rep Power: 1446604	http://www.xtra.ca/public/National/a...%20Coyote.aspx I enjoy Ivan Coyote's articles on xtra . com, and this new one about "getting over the ex butch style" was no exception. Anyone else have any sure fire ways for getting over her and getting back out there? Any stories to tell?