"Butch" and "Femme" - Truly Antiquated Terms or More Marginalization?

Arwen · 12-23-2009, 12:38 PM

On second thought, I am going to unsubscribe from this thread.

This is not about what a lesbian is or isn't for me.

It is for others.

Because this is such an emotionally charged issue for me and because I am actually sitting here in tears feeling like I need to throw up, obviously I am not going to be able to unwrap my tangled up issues over this word.

My feelings about the word are hurting some of you and making you feel as if I think how you love is a bad thing. I am truly very sorry for that. I never meant for that to be. In trying to explain my own feelings, I've offended some folks I count as friends.

Please know that I am not angry. This is not about anger at all.

I do appreciate those of you who have rationally discussed this. I do understand where you are coming from. I just wish you could see that my personal choice does not demean yours any more than your personal choice demeans mine.

Right now, I feel as if some of you think I hate lesbians and that is simply not true. But it hurts very deeply so I am withdrawing myself at this time from this particular thread.

12-23-2009, 12:38 PM	#1
Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,108 Times in 6,412 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	On second thought, I am going to unsubscribe from this thread. This is not about what a lesbian is or isn't for me. It is for others. Because this is such an emotionally charged issue for me and because I am actually sitting here in tears feeling like I need to throw up, obviously I am not going to be able to unwrap my tangled up issues over this word. My feelings about the word are hurting some of you and making you feel as if I think how you love is a bad thing. I am truly very sorry for that. I never meant for that to be. In trying to explain my own feelings, I've offended some folks I count as friends. Please know that I am not angry. This is not about anger at all. I do appreciate those of you who have rationally discussed this. I do understand where you are coming from. I just wish you could see that my personal choice does not demean yours any more than your personal choice demeans mine. Right now, I feel as if some of you think I hate lesbians and that is simply not true. But it hurts very deeply so I am withdrawing myself at this time from this particular thread. __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?